Why You Should Ignore Women


Women crave male attention, you decide whether you give it to them or they earn it

Women love male attention whether they admit it or not. In fact, women get upset when men don’t notice them, especially if they have spent a lot of time on putting their war paint (makeup) on and bought some sort of new garment or shoes from the store. If men who women think should be noticing them aren’t, women will start acting childish. From giving men who ignore them dirty looks to seething about it in the bathroom with their girlfriends, women cannot stand being invisible to men. If men only knew the power of this tactic, intentionally withholding attention from women on a regular basis rather than giving it to them for nothing, they could affect real change in the way women act and treat men.

The Red Pill man uses aloof behavior to his advantage when dealing with females. An aloof attitude is one of the best qualities a man can develop: cool, calm, collected, uncaring, indifferent. Women want attention and approval from their peers as well as men they find desirable. When they don’t get this attention, the hamster hops on the wheel and spins very quickly, often until it falls off the wheel. Women who don’t get the proper level of attention will do everything from accusing men who ignore them of being gay to hurling personal insults at them. How many times have we seen women throw around the “loser” insult? Whenever you hear this word, her ego has been pinpricked by something you did to her.

Female self esteem is based on what others think of them. This is why women exhibit pack and herd behavior. Marketing flacks know this which is why they push their wares on women instead of men. The majority of consumer marketing is directed at women, not men, and for good reason. Women make up 80% of consumerism in America, and much of that money is spent on making themselves more beautiful and desirable. Going back to pack and herd behavior, if a female who is revered by other women (such as an actress or pop star) adopts a new hairstyle, we have all seen that style trickle down through society as women copy first the actress and then other women who have the hairstyle. I first noticed it as a teenager with the Jennifer Aniston hairstyle when Friends came out in the 1990s. Soon after, every other girl had the “Jennifer Aniston” look.

Hilariously, female attention-seeking behavior now powers a gigantic trophy industry in Anglo America. Women are getting trophies for everything from good work at their jobs to beauty contests. While they tell men to lower their standards (do not look for a trophy wife), women are doing everything they can to become a trophy themselves, including rewarding themselves with faux trophies for doing little more than existing. Yes, their egos are that fragile.


Women’s attitudes change when have to do more for male attention than just looking pretty

Deflate the Female Ego

The neg. If you haven’t heard of it, it’s one of the most important concepts of Game. A neg is a backhanded compliment, impeccably timed and delivered. Something along the lines of: That blouse is nice, my mother has one just like it. As petty as the neg sounds, it is actually a great tactic for catching women off guard instead of the usual Beta male butt kissing that helps inflate their egos.

One of the reasons women are so arrogant today is because of a sexual market that has shifted towards the Pareto Principle. With most men figuratively (and sometimes literally) begging for sex, women receive constant attention from thirsty, incel Betas. The last thing she wants is another Beta to kiss her behind and orbit her in hopes he’ll get a few sexual crumbs off the table. The neg can be an important way to demonstrate higher value, letting her know subconsciously you are not an thirsty Beta, you are a man that other women desire. As mentioned above, women are pack and herd creatures, so a man other women want is a man your target is going to want.

If you already have a woman, keeping her ego in check is essential if you want to keep her around. There are several tips to assist you in managing her. To the uninitiated, the tips will seem counterintuitive to everything you have been told by society. But to the experienced, the tips will be common sense. Here’s a list of dos and don’ts to avoid becoming a Beta male in the female mind, all based the power of ignoring:

  • Ignore what women want
  • Don’t do what they demand you do
  • Do not listen to what they say they want
  • Be aloof, ignoring her insults and having impeccably delivered comebacks to each of them


  • Develop yourself; never make a female your main priority
  • Do not become a walking wallet
  • Always have backups (side dishes) ready to go

By ignoring women and refusing to cave to their whims, you are demonstrating subconsciously that you are a man of high value. A man with options does not jump when a girl squawks, because he doesn’t have to. Staying cool and distant demonstrates that you are the prize, and she is seeking you. Women chase what retreats. Make yourself the sought after prize rather than turning her into the sought after prize.

Developing your own productive hobbies and interests will increase your personal happiness as well as your value in her mind. Avoid becoming a walking wallet at all costs, you will never be able to keep pace on The Hedonic Treadmill and will either fall off or have a heart attack trying. And of course, the Red Pill man always has more than one female plate spinning, which is a good insurance policy against one-itis and acts as an overall confidence booster.


Men putting themselves first makes them the pursued rather than the pursuer

You Are the Prize

The biggest mistake men make is becoming trained monkeys for women, inflating their egos (as they desire men to do) with constant attention and doing what women want them to do, essentially turning themselves into doormats. Then, these men act surprised when they get walked on.

Men must remember they spend a lifetime becoming something of value while women just are women, there’s no becoming. Nature endows women with sexual market value that men have to spend a lifetime acquiring: gaining money, status, and power to even show up on the female radar.

Women, as the gatekeepers of sex hold the power to what men want. However, men also are gatekeepers. Men are the gatekeepers of commitment. Ignoring women and ignoring what they want shows you do not give your commitment away for nothing. In the male mind, a woman that gives sex away easily is a whore. In the female mind, a man that gives away his attention and commitment easily is a Beta.

Remember: Stay aloof, neg, ignore wishes, demands, and female attention seeking, and look out for number one. Playing with women’s emotions by ignoring them most of the time, while occasionally throwing their egos a bone with a halfhearted compliment, and not doing things for them like trained puppy dogs might seem cold to the uninitiated in the romantic arts, but the man who learns the correct behavior wields an enormous amount of power in today’s sexual jungle.

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  • Like it or not, much of this article is right on the money. You have to keep the interest level up at all times. They love the chase and they like it rough and tough, don’t let them BS you otherwise.


  • It’s interesting how this article makes the case for ignoring women, yet also here we have weekly updates of “eye candy,” each featuring several photos of beautiful, scantily clad models. Those women can easily do an image search, find this blog, and get off on the fact that someone thought to say, “Look at this babe!” Not to say that it’s bad. It’s natural. You are a man and this is how it was designed to be. Women cannot be ignored.


    • Relampago Furioso

      I don’t ignore women. I ignore Anglobitches. Perhaps I should have made that distinction.


  • since reading a lot of the articles on this site, I am truly awake, and now I behave how I use to in my teens and early to late twenties with women (now I am in my late thirties) and Definitely agree to ignoring them, it works a treat! I have a new found aura that lately it seems a lot of women are noticing about me, Good times to come, Thank you!


    • Go back and look at the titles for the images. Each says “Enjoy our Eye Candy of the Week for ———– as we enjoy the female form while remembering the truth about women.” Each woman is from a different part of the world, so it makes sense to me that the goal is to get men to travel by showing these images. The only American woman I’ve seen ( and it’s assumed she’s American by the description) is from March 5th, 2017, and the title is “Front and back this vanilla piece of tail would surely render an unawakened man powerless against its allure. But in this neck of the woods, men know hitting and quitting it is a much safer bet”.

      I’d say what’s being done here is pretty fucking clever, and no doubt has made more than a few men pack up their shit and leave, or start making plans for it.

      I’ve traveled for 6 months last year, visiting many countries, and I can tell you that the grass is greener. Right now I am in Mexico dating a ridiculously cute and classy CrossFit chick, and she blows away any of the 100’s of Anglobitches I’ve dated and fucked in my life.


  • i have worked as a foreman in an office where there are approx 40 women coming and going all the time. i have been here for over 20 years and i can tell you what you say is true. young old whatever, i have been aloof since i am married and don’t want to deal with trouble at work. i really never knew until now but i have been throwing neg’s around the whole time! i’m over 50 and lift weights but i’ve been told the girls find me un approachable, and when i do give them attention they squeal. they really are herd like.


  • I have found that certain places I go isn’t worth looking at women at all no matter how attractive they are. By ignoring women, I can’t say it really works. So far it hasn’t. I’m not the nicest person, that’s for sure. I’m an A-hole who rarely smiles at women. There’s some good ladies out there, I’m sure. But, NOT much.


  • Has anyone stories of ignoring women that they can email me? I have one from today – which I can write if people are interested.
    Has anyone been ignoring women for so long and so well that
    a) they feel bad later because it turns out not all women are evil
    b) they ignored their girlfriend or someone they know
    As students in the 90s we already coined the term “flatterers” for what was in truth almost all female students – they were essentially desperate for attention, didnt like men, and seek attention and try to look away first. We also realised it is attention rape…of the man. So a good looking intelligent and arrogant man would just learn to ignore most women.
    I still am conditioned to basically ignore women but have lost the arrogance.
    If you want to know what a bizarre situation is, in which a woman is demanding attention and the man can do no right then how about this :
    you are visiting or live in a country where people normally take nude sauna, such as at the gym, and you are not fluent in the different language. You like me use a wash cloth to cover your face and eyes, so incidentally you cant see anything and are looking at the roof anyway. A woman who was trying to get your attention during training and you ignored her is in there (initially with the wife of the owner manager) and you dont bother trying to start chatting lest you run out of grammar and vocab. When alone, rather than the usual thing of run away to avoid being alone with any man (doesnt matter how not attractive old fat etc they are and that you are a male model…they act like your disgusting, as feminism gifted all women this attitude) This lady slipped away and came back…I assumed doing what I know to do…you get a shower half way to cool and wet the body…helping clean sweating, and avoid over heating. But when she came back and I assume from the noises oiling herself up…I was hard pressed to avoid the possibility that in the normally silent sauna, she was making noise to get me to look and chat. I didnt. Such things are not uncommon for good looking men I suppose and am barely bothered by it anymore, but as hetero normal men, a small part of you is still going to punish you for not seeing what could have happened so this sort of teasing is simply more nasty than women can imagine.
    Imagine too if they behave in such a way as to get attention and then act like the man is a creep if he is too weak to ignore.
    I noticed some time ago though that women seem to invert their perception of creeps 180 degrees. Am sure any decent man has noticed. Easier to do so from the detached perspective of being married or such.
    Women seem to go for creeps and act like the nice guy is the perv. And we might wonder why society gets worse each generation.


  • I definetly agree with the point of the article…but how would I actually do that in real life if I still want women in my life ? because the image I get when I hear “you have to ignore women” is one where I wouldn’t even bother to look at them or talk to them in the first place


  • charlessledge001

    Just rereading this article. Just got back from doing pretty much exactly this and want to point out how damn effective this is. Especially with modern masculinized Western women. Master the backhanded compliment and you will never sleep alone when around Westernized women.


    • Relampago Furioso

      Yep, ignoring them works like a charm. Sad but true. Giving them your undivided attention is a Beta tell her limbic brain picks up on quickly.


      • I definetly agree with the point of the article…but how would I actually do that in real life if I still want women in my life ? because the image I get when I hear “you have to ignore women” is one where I wouldn’t even bother to look at them or talk to them in the first place


      • First the advice from someone who…doesnt claim to “know” but modestly admits has some experience that might be useful, and was cursed with awareness of psychology from an early age, and let me tell you thats no advantage if you have morality.
        First off, I hope everyone would agree, men in all cultures, that really what we are getting at here is self discipline and control. Life provides the challenge – for us the game seems to stem from basic biology and starts with two balls and one stick.
        Life is a chance to learn, and overcoming base desire is a pretty basic one. We are all susceptible to self deception. I found out again this week that although I have had years to crush or rather re-channel sexual energy, when the girl is highly compatible, I have little conscious control at all. At least I have learnt to effectively ignore women, but this has to itself develop…
        from simply ignoring them, to also, self control. I.e. not completely ignoring them, but learning to give women the exact asexual attention that you intend, however the women looks, a naked model for example, would be good practise.
        I live in Germany where naked is fairly standard in summer and in the gym sauna etc, so I believe this is healthier than anything. Unless of course like USA and Britain you are already boxed in to being a perverted sexually repressed society, in which case a transition is almost impossible. Just look at the absolute freaks who do take part in so called liberal stuff, pseudonaturism, liberal parades and protests.
        So, we need to ease into giving women the polite social attention, whilst having learnt body language that shows you have no interest. Isnt this what feminism wants FFS?
        If you are good looking and positive and fit, you can project just niceness or positivity. When you then approach or make contact with a woman, you can be sure that, without ego, “its her loss” not in the self BS consoling way, but a genuine, “look I know am a nice guy” sort of way. If like many “hetero” women they really only want a monster to feel better than other women, then dont feel bad about this. Better just to be a good person and let the good women come to you, or help that along a bit.
        Like I said I dont claim to know but experience has suggested that it is even possible to “ask a woman out” without being able to be or feel rejected. Dont ask for an analysis as it is either a book chapter, at least needs a boring explanation, or else just defies analysis.
        Women for some time use what we call “attention rape” on a man, which means taking and assuming attention without consent, without the man offering it in the way the women assumed. You can understand the immature mind needing and assuming attention, but your duty is to ration this attention to those who deserve it. Which initially would mean no one.
        Am sad to say that I feel I have to add that: I wrote to the mysterious and unseen “author” of this page, and although am modest and English and polite, do have to admit this person doesnt know much about sexuality and psychology, whereas I just wish I didnt.
        Like I said it can be mostly a curse. Anyway I had to politely email to write to ask why this site, claiming to understand and help men, and understand women, and gender psychology, not only has pseudoporn everywhere, but these images are in direct contradiction to the theme of the site, but then who knows what the readership figures of the page are? Does it matter?
        I think, in principle at least it matters a lot. It shows some weird cognitive dissonance at best, or something more sinister at worse.
        Is the person ill or just like manipulating people. My point is the email got not a jot in reply or acknowledgement. Odd isnt it?
        Sad I have to write this here, because I think anyone who does read the page, i.e. at least those who have commented, would be interested to know about this situation.
        You see, the ignoring women is not about being rude and insulting passively, and it shouldnt even about the mans ego.
        No it is, again, about self respect and self discipline and self improvement, raising ones consciousness from a freak a pervert a loser an animal with technology, and being something better, you know, something women might actually want. Thats the point.
        What isnt the point, is projecting your bitterness onto strangers to punish them for failed past relations.
        Do you see why ignoring images of women is just as important? Ideas that they just look nice or are pretty are ridiculous.
        Because a) if it was about pure aesthetics, an artist would say “where are the men?, or just a nice scene?” if its not sexual.
        b) if it is about sex, why are you trying to excite strangers sexually? Thats weird. Do you need to get attention because the article, product, advert etc isnt good enough?
        This is truly sinister. Worse is that you want sad people with no experience to bring themselves to a climax and therefore waste life’s essential energy that anyone no retarded would try to preserve and raise in the body, as per Tantra Taoism etc.
        When I notice these pseudoporn or glamour sexy ads featuring naked women side on etc, as it not unusual in Germany in, e.g. bath products etc (lets avoid the essay on analysing the (obvious) fact that these products are for young women)
        The point of all this very much feels like oppressing and mocking men in general. Is that true or just my weakness? Dont think so since I do get a fair amount of attention from women and can meet women quite easily if I wanted. Mens sexuality is THE most powerful force humanity knows about and experiences, and what does society to? It either inflates it dangerously and provokes it cruelly (teasing a caged bear, poking it with a stick), or mocks and tries to treat it trivially. “All men are wankers”.
        All images of women are after all meant to say “haha you want this but cant have it”, without of course, any chance of reply. In short you can say that they are inciting violence and rape therefore must be surely illegal?
        Never mind respect for women, what about respect for men?


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