Psychologist Details Why It’s Better to Stay Single
I must admit, as a man who has bedded well over 100 women, I’m a tad jaded when it comes to the topic of staying single. Every women I meet is always eager to tell me how she’s “not like other girls.” Then what does she do? Show me she’s just like other girls except for the packaging around her lies, and what her goals are as far as getting something out of me. Briffault’s Law, boys, Briffault’s Law. Remember it always.
However, I know I am not alone when it comes to my realism on the topic of women. Men are coming together in ever-increasing numbers to share their experiences with women, and when there is Realtalk involved, many if not most of those experiences are not positive ones. Interestingly, a study coming out from the University of California at Santa Barbara which examined 800 different academic studies about single people over 3 decades confirms what many MGTOWs, PUAs, and MRAs already know. In the current legal climate and gynocentric culture, the best bet is to be a player or stay away from women as much as possible. And definitely don’t marry one.
Professor Bella DePaulo gives us the Hivemind groupthink opinion based on her research on the issue, with which I will sprinkle in doses of reality. I think she’s right on with the first fact, as many men are realizing staying single allows us to have more control over our lives and our finances and to experience more women than just one.
Increasing numbers of people are single because they want to be. Living single allows them to live their best, most authentic, and most meaningful life.
Modern marriage usually comes with the expectation, if not female entitlement mentality, that you will be the man who outdoes all the others in the neighborhood when it comes to giving your woman first prize in the conspicuous consumption contest. This comes at the expense of things you feel are important as a man, and stunts your self-growth and self-expression so you can be another cog powering the female-driven consumer waste machine. However, single men are able to do whatever the fuck we want, when we want.
For example, research comparing people who have stayed single with those who have stayed married shows that single people have a heightened sense of self-determination and they are more likely to experience a sense of continued growth and development as a person.
So, we’ve established it’s better to be your own man than to be the human equivalent of a handbag. Men who decide to only pursue pleasures of the flesh with women, and not emotional attachments which the majority of men end up losing according to divorce statistics, while focusing on themselves and their own-well being are understandably happier than men who try to turn themselves into doormats for women.
Other research shows that single people value meaningful work more than married people do … another study of lifelong single people showed that self-sufficiency serves them well: the more self-sufficient they were, the less likely they were to experience negative emotions. For married people, just the opposite was true.
Of course, it’s hard to be self-sufficient and in control as a man if you are legally attached to a women who has the Barbie Fun House fantasy, expecting you to be her Ken doll while she drives the Barbie Corvette you paid for. These are are powerful subconscious motivations for women, and Anglo culture reinforces the fantasy. DePaulo continues:
[Married people’s sense of self-worth is boosted by] a relentless celebration of marriage and coupling and weddings that I call matrimania.
Unfortunately, thanks to a sliding culture many men have just the opposite, matriphobia. Women may get worked up into a frenzy about being unattached as their biological clock ticks, but we men get wiser as we get older, and many of us are advising younger men to avoid stepping into the trap laid by predatory women.
Really, what being happy as a single man comes down to is whether that man has abundance mentality or scarcity mentality. A man will be happy if he is confident in his ability to score some poon whenever he feels like. However, less confident men may be scared to be alone.
Today’s sexual market is not kind to the Beta male. He is seeing his world crashing down all around him. In all likelihood, single adulthood is going to be the norm for at least the next few decades. It will be a sexual feast for the man who can adapt, and a dry, dry desert for the man who has dreams of matrimonial and familial bliss. Those dreams are respectable, but this late stage in Western society is not the time for it.
The biggest issue for society is single people do not have enough children to make them sustainable past a few generations. This is why Europeans and European-Americans are becoming strangers in their own lands. But at least for the time being, the safest, most psychologically and financially sound benefit is staying single. The predatory female has been left to roam free and is only bolstered by laws that punish men at every turn. Someday this insanity will correct itself as the sine wave of history starts another cycle, but don’t expect it anytime soon.
Oh, as an added bonus for men who want to stay single: married women tend to get fatter. No shocker there. One study published in Psychology Today that looked at 6,000 women who got married and studied their weight over a decade revealed the unsurprising fat facts:
All of the women gained weight over the 10 years, especially if they had children. But just looking at the women without kids, the ones with a partner gained more weight than the women who were single.
Whether it be psychological benefits of not hearing nagging 24 hours a day or the pressure to keep up with Becky’s husband and what he broke his neck buying her, or not coming home to a homely hog every day, being a single Man Going His Own Way is not necessarily a bad thing in modern times.
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