Don’t Save Her – She Does Not Want to Be Saved

The “Damsel in Distress” is a powerful cultural myth

Titanium Vulture is an author, filmmaker, and contributor to The New Modern Man.

Gents, here’s something to think about if you haven’t figured it out already. The Disney fantasy of the female protagonist being rescued by her dashing prince charming is, for the most part, just fiction.  Although many of these tales where inspired by folklore from the history of man, I can’t help but feel there was some kind of agenda to place the women of these stories front and center.

The damsel in distress.

How many times have you or someone you know gotten pressured into helping some dame move her shit up several flights of stairs?  Or maybe she wants a shoulder to cry on.  The princess DEMANDS she be served.

During the days of chivalry, being kind and courteous to a lady was seen as an aspect of the honorable knight.  It was the knight’s responsibility to come to her rescue should danger, be it man or beast, were to transpire against the fair maiden.

Fast forward to today…many males have fallen far from grace.

I say males instead of men because, in my opinion, eager-beaver-dudes ready to save a random chick from a rational thought, the truth, or “the patriarchy” are nothing more than White-Knight Manginas.  They are not men.

The damsel will not respect a mangina.  A nice summary of the mangina definition is quoted below from Urban Dictionary:

Someone who espouses feminism but is really being suckered into a form of chivalry in which women’s interests take precedence over men’s. Unaware that they are merely “useful idiots”, doing what women want in the vain hope of getting laid. When his usefulness is over she tosses him out with the rest of the rubbish.

Yep, we’ve talked about male disposability before.  But its even more insulting when we demean ourselves by willfully going through the trouble of “rescuing” the object of our desire.  The idea that the woman is just waiting for you to ride in on your horse and save her from, well just life really, sounds absurd to me.

Here’s the secret:  she does not want to be saved!

I’m a life-long fan of hip hop music.  One of my favorite artists in recent years is J. Cole.  He’s producer and rapper that talks about the damsel in the song “No Role Modelz.”  The lead-in to the chorus has some interesting insight:

One time for my LA sisters
One time for my LA hoes
Lame (dudes) can’t tell the difference
One time for a (fellow) who knows
Don’t save her, she don’t wanna be saved

Women want the “fantasy” of being rescued by their knight in shining armor.  But in real life it’s actually the barbarian that gets the girl.  While the knight’s armor is rusting in the rain along with wilted flowers, the real man is nailing the damsel upstairs in the tower.

The barbarian does not do shit for the damsel.  Not even a rescue.  He just comes in and fucks her.

I’ve been the white knight.  I’ve been the barbarian.  Having played both of these roles, I’ve come to the realization that chivalry, by and large, is not rewarded in our current society.  I believe in being kind for the sake of being kind.  But if someone fucks with me I don’t take their shit.  That goes for both males and females.

I’ve taken my oath and will now aspire to be a dark knight.  One whose armor, while a little dirty and scuffed, still protects the heart of a king.  I will be kind to people.  I will serve.   But men and women will be treated with the same value.  No more of that Disney bullshit.

Gents, I urge you to do the same.  Peace, and stay focused!

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  • JD, Herald of GenX

    If they wanted to be saved, they’d reward the men who try.
    Do they? You know the answer.
    The last ten minutes of “The Last American Virgin” is all you need to see.


  • The Angry Outernationalist

    I will add further emphasis: there are no exceptions to this rule, even for your own mother.

    Many men will discover that Dear Ol’ Maw had you slotted in as a “retirement plan”, and that she wouldn’t do a damned thing to save herself because she wants to be the Mother Damsel in Distress that you’ll always bail out of the shit she’ll cause.

    As for the American men here thinking it might be different because of living standards and government support, go volunteer in a charity rest home sometime. It’s an eye-opening experience.

    But wait, there’s more! You can also see how bad health care in your old age is going to suck, even if you’ve made plans for what is called “long-term care”. These places sell the idea that you’ll simply go on doing the things that you used to do, but with medical care being constantly available.

    What they don’t tell you is that nobody in these places really gets to do anything anymore. They’re warehouses for mostly used-up and useless people who simply haven’t died yet. I have yet to meet anyone of significance in these places: aging poets, playwrights, writers, scholars, and businessmen do everything they can to avoid these places.

    I mention this because with the holidays, there’s the burden of some families believing that they can shove all their problems onto “the designated survivor” or perhaps even “the designated patient” in a psychiatric role, and the drama and bullshit becomes highly magnified during this time of the year.

    That isn’t healthy, and if it’s happening to you, understand that you’re being used and abused.

    An extra special secret decoder ring for the holidays for some of you out there: if your parents told you that you were their “bonus baby”, it really means your mother needed a “retirement plan” that was better than relying on her other children who she perceived to be a bunch of fuck-ups.

    TL;DR: There are no family exceptions for NAWALT.


  • Indeed.Project Pat _ Dont save her….classic:


  • Is it me or does every female out there now have permanent bitch face? You know, that face of contempt, the snarled upper lip and unapproachable disfigured looking face that wreaks of ‘my shit don’t stink.’ They got their own faces so far up their own shit holes that they don’t realize they are becoming more and more non-existent to men. It’s getting harder and harder for men to meet just a decent well rounded human being of a woman.

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    • Relampago Furioso

      I definitely notice the permanent bitch face you speak of among Anglobitches. In the matrix it’s everywhere I go (and I traveled to nearly every state in the past year). Whenever I have the misfortune of running into them abroad, I generally feel disgust rising as one approaches. It subsides once she’s out of my sight and the friendly faces of foreign women return to view.

      Anglo women don’t know the contempt average men have for them because they’re fed feel-good, YouGoGrrl propaganda around the clock. The matrix literally brainwashes them into thinking they’re perfect and convinces Anglobitches it’s the men who suck. When the exact opposite is the truth.

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  • I got into a brief discussion with a white-knight a while back who was all about sticking his neck out for the wimmenzs and was advocating yours truly to do the same. “If you see a girl (meaning full-grown woman) getting harassed or mis-treated you need to step up and step in.”

    I wanted to know what was in it for me. Was she now mine because I saved her? Did she belong to me because I risked my neck by stepping into an unknown situation? And his response was “No, it’s just your duty as a man.”

    My reply, “Fuck that.”


  • “Women want the “fantasy” of being rescued by their knight in shining armor.”

    Women don’t even want that fantasy IMO. The “damsel in distress” stories are written by men. It is men (well, Western men) who actually want that fantasy.

    What women truly want is made clear in “romance” novels. They want a man with wealth/status/power who can see through their bullshit and who will completely dominate them.


  • I’ll post this again. The #MeToo bullshit and the Mike Pence Rule are a godsend to men. We now have the socially acceptable and understood by all reason to refuse the wimmens any help what so ever. Pre now, refusing a woman would cause her to revert to shaming tactics and the white knights to do the same or possibly worse. Now when you refuse her and she protests all you have to say is #MeToo and she will know immediately. Of course, that won’t stop her and then you say you adhere to the Mike Pence Rule. It will hit her like a ton of bricks, and the white knights too.

    We men should also be thankful to third wave feminism for exposing true female nature. Now women are completely understood and now we have the tools to refuse them in a socially acceptable way. The excesses of feminism have freed us. Free at last, thank God Almighty, free at last.

    You ladies should have been more careful in what you asked for. Because now you are going to get exactly that in spades. Cheers.

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  • One time for my LA sisters
    One time for my LA hoes
    Lame niggas can’t tell the difference
    One time for a nigga who knows

    Don’t save her, she don’t wanna be saved
    Don’t save her, she don’t wanna be saved
    Don’t save her, she don’t wanna be saved
    Don’t save her, she don’t wanna be saved

    No role models and I’m here right now
    No role models to speak of
    Searchin’ through my memory, my memory
    I couldn’t find one


  • How does that old sayin go .. Gas, Grass or Ass .. nobody rides free!

    All men need to take your advice.

    Black Knight [circa 1980’s in college] .. and still not conforming to th wimminz ™ and trad-con white knight type demands.


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