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The End of Child Support Annuities? North Dakota Shared Parenting Bill Passes Senate


North Dakota has been debating whether or not to treat men as equal parents rather than making them legally subordinate to women

Tiny North Dakota (population wise, anyway) almost made a big move when it comes to ending the 18-year child support annuities Anglo women currently enjoy. House Bill 1392, the “shared parenting bill” just passed the North Dakota Senate. That’s the good news. The bad news is the bill was revised and doesn’t really do anything of importance.

Don’t get your hopes up yet for real reform. Inforum reports:

Advocates for the shared parenting bill feel the Senate gutted the legislation this week, while the opposing parties are not entirely satisfied either.

Indeed, men are always fighting an uphill legal battle when it comes to battling the self-proclaimed eternal victims, women. It’s hard to beat the master of victim card playing in a society that pedestalizes females from birth. Even when men are saddled with severe legal and financial disadvantages in a nation that’s supposed to worship “equality” under the law. Arnold Fleck, attorney and advocate for the bill explains how courts currently walk all over men when they award child custody to women and award financial slavery to men:

What social scientists tell us is that shared parenting should be in the vast majority, we’re talking 90-plus percent of the cases, and we’re not even close to that.

The exact opposite occurs, as women are awarded custody 84% of the time. Men also pay the lion’s share of child support payments, and fall behind on those payments less often than women. That’s something you won’t hear from the lamestream media, who love to sound the “deadbeat dad” trumpet whenever possible.

Fleck went on to tell us the government has once again failed North Dakotans in that the bill received a tepid “do-pass” recommendation from the judiciary committee but it fails to bring true reform.

I am not quite sure that the language that came out of the Senate is going to create an atmosphere that isn’t a little bit more confusing for the courts and parents versus what I had suggested.

In other words, lawmakers want to act like they’re doing something but they’re really not doing anything as the bill is bogged down in what is essentially a legal swamp. The real takeaway is attorneys who profit from breaking up families and enslaving men don’t want their livelihoods messed up, and they have a lot of influence in state capitols.

It’s just a nasty game of politics, and apparently money and political careers are put above the needs of our children. That’s the way I’m seeing it. It’s just really sad, really sad. The Legislature just keeps failing us in a big way here.

Indeed, assailing The Predatory Female is tricky politically. The good news is at least the issue is coming up for a vote, even if sackless lawmakers continue to uphold the misandrist status quo. Fleck continues:

From what we’re hearing, the public is becoming more and more on our side, so we’ll just take it to the public again.

Attention Anglobitches: The pendulum is preparing to swing away from feminism.

But, it may be a generation or more before we see true reform, in what remains of the rapidly swirling the toilet bowl West after that time. Meantime, dads need to keep writing those checks to totally unaccountable women.

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MGTOW Grows: Marriage Rates Continue Steep Decline


Marriage rates are tumbling among adults under age 35

Marriage rates are in steep decline as men go MGTOW and otherwise avoid selling themselves out for subpar women.

After all, what mind in his right mind would sign up for marriage to an Anglobitch? Especially considering high divorce rates, plus the added threats brought on by a man-hating court system and the danger of losing everything for implied (but not guaranteed) use of a depreciating, moist piece of anatomy.

Nature’s magic credit card, in other words, which today’s women are already over their credit limits on isn’t quite the honey trap it used to be for luring men into The Marriage Trap.

Whether it’s MGTOWs or et cetera, men are avoiding marriage at ever increasing rates. Bloomberg, after seeing new statistics revealing the decline in matrimony recently reported Young Americans Are Killing Marriage. That headline is incorrect. Women and feminism killed marriage. It’s nothing but a legal, financial, and social albatross for the modern man. Here are some stats revealing the steep decline in marriage over the last generation and a half. From Bloomberg:

In 1980, two-thirds of 25- to 34-year-olds were already married. One in eight had already been married and divorced. In 2015, just two in five millennials were married, and only 7% had been divorced.

In other words, marriage rates for young adults have tumbled from 66% to 40% in that time period. There is some good news here: fewer men are being subjected to frivorces now than in the past. Divorce rates have fallen from 12% to 7% in that same time period, which means men are getting smarter about who they are choosing to legally tie themselves to.

Here’s why the blame for the decline of marriage can be laid directly at the feet of Anglobitches. There are some interesting statistics that show the themes we discuss on men’s blogs have validity, and aren’t just polemics designed to attack Anglo women. They deserve every bit of ire we send their way.


Want a marriage that will last? Go to Asia or elsewhere abroad as statistics prove foreign women are superior life partners

Marriages to Foreign Women Last

Many American men are choosing to make investments in foreign brides. The U.S. Census Bureau reveals a foreign bride is a much safer bet than an Anglobitch, as interpreted on City Data:

The divorce rate for American men who marry American women: 57%. But since the figures from several states (including California) are excluded, the true national divorce rate is likely closer to 65%. The divorce rate in California is over 70%. The divorce rate for American men who marry foreign women: approximately 20%.

Put more simply:

You can marry an American woman and have a close to two-thirds (66%) chance of getting divorced, or you can marry a foreign woman and have at least a 75% chance of success.

So, it turns out all us guys in the manosphere aren’t just ranting and raving. Anglobitches really are terrible women.

In addition, as the noose of the corporate-government complex tightens around the necks of those in The Matrix, more young people are working more today than their parents did. This is due, in part, to Anglo women deciding to become common laborers rather than moms and housewives.

But, nobody can say young people aren’t working as hard as their parents did.

There’s also no sign that young people today are lazier than three decades ago. In 1980, 74 percent of baby boomers reported that they had worked in the past week, the Census data show. In 2015, slightly more millennials, 77 percent, said they’d been to work in the past week.

In spite of the fact more Americans are working, they’re obviously taking home less as many are forced to forgo purchasing their own homes or renting their own places.

The chance that Americans in their late twenties and early thirties live with parents or grandparents has more than doubled. In 1980, just 9 percent of 25- to 34-year-olds were doing so. In 2015, 22 percent lived with parents or grandparents.

It should be noted marriage rates were designed to tumble as a wedge was driven between the sexes by 50 years of leftism and Cultural Marxism. This has made women and men compete with each other for scraps off the corporate table rather than cooperating with each other to produce families and legacies beyond those of empty materialistic consumption.

As has been pointed out previously by TNMM, the ultimate irony of feminism is it has made women worthless for men when it comes to just about anything but sex. Feminism literally turned women into nothing but sex objects, since they bring nothing else of value to the table!

And now, men have to go abroad to find a decent spouse.

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Predatory Females at Work: Emmanuel Sanders’ Wife Files for Divorce Just as He is Set to Earn $10 Million Bonus


Yet another episode of Frivorce Rape Lotto: Emmanuel Sanders vs. Gabriella

Here’s a case study in why the awakened man should never put himself into the compromised position of being married these days. This case is still winding its way through the vagina-worshiping court system, but it sounds a number of alarm bells to the man who would glean knowledge from its details.

The press is having a field day with the Emmanuel Sanders divorce. We will look at it from a Red Pill perspective, yet another cautionary tale of what putting your scrotum into a legal vice grip yields when your bitch gets ready to flush you down the toilet.

Here goes. (This is all just one man’s opinion, of course.)

Their second baby hadn’t even been born yet, and already Denver Broncos Wide Receiver Emmanuel Sanders’ wife Gabriella was positioning herself for the kill. She was ready to cash in on his ass as her divorce lawyers had already begun writing up boilerplate legal screeds for the gynocentric, Anglo-American kangaroo courts. Gabriella served Sanders with divorce papers even before she squeezed out her annuity… er… child in the delivery room.

In case you haven’t noticed, children are nothing more than meal tickets to women in modern day Anglo-America. Fathers and fathers’ rights be damned. If women think they can’t cash in on their children, they simply go kill them at the abortion clinic. But, being married to an NFL player obviously ensures a nice, consistent stream of child support cash enforced by legal indentured servitude. (Pay up or go to jail.) We are living smack dab in the middle of one of the most insane socioeconomic systems in the history of mankind.

How much does she want? As reported by Meninist:

Gabriella is looking to score big as she is asking the courts for custody of their two children, a restraining order against Sanders, and she wants a “disproportionate” share of their assets. Ironically, Sanders is scheduled to make $13.2 million (includes $10 Million dollar signing bonus) this year from his 3 year $33 million dollar contract.

Disproportionate share, eh? Tell me again how women are not prostitutes and marriage is not legalized prostitution.

Witness, once again White Knights and fembots, The Predatory Female in action. Gabriella timed the divorce perfectly. She filed for divorce right before she pushed out her 18-year annuity that Sanders fathered. But she doesn’t just want a fat child support check. Oh, no. She wants a fat slice of the bonus he no doubt busts his ass to earn.

Sanders even reportedly said he was “blindsided” by the divorce. Ha. Yep, women will do that. They always hide their true feelings and emotions from men until they go for the jugular. This should come as absolutely no surprise to a regular reader of TNMM. Cynical as the truth may be, the truth is the truth. Women are financial predators of men, and in a society that has gone completely insane and let them frivorce rape with impunity, they’re cleaning out any men stupid enough to marry them.

Laughably, she is citing his side chicks as a reason she should be able to cash in. (I want money for the sex I gave you rule applies again!) From celebrity gossip rag TMZ:

The estranged wife of Denver Broncos WR Emmanuel Sanders has declared WAR on the NFL star — claiming he lied, cheated and spent THOUSANDS on chicks he was banging on the side.

Umm…THOUSANDS to an NFL player is like dropping a $50 to the average working slob. It seems Sanders was another fool who soon parted with his money to pay for these girls rather than a PUA. A player on the field, and another Beta with more money than common sense when it comes to women. TMZ rages on:

It’s all in ANGRY court docs filed by Gabriella Sanders — who blasts the father of her 2 children with a metaphorical bazooka right from the get go.

“When he’s not playing football on the field, he ‘plays the field’ with numerous women whom he is or has committed adultery.”

Big shocker. Knowing an NFL player will more often than not have multiple harems because women will lay down for rich and powerful men on command, nay throw themselves in front of his cock, she sets herself up as…you guessed it…the victim while she lends him enough rope to hang himself.

Gabby lays out multiple marital “atrocities” allegedly committed by her husband – and claims he spent “thousands upon thousands of dollars on girlfriends and wasting the community estate, even purchasing a vehicle for one of his illicit affairs.”

There is no doubt a personal investigator was used to follow Sanders around in order to gather information on him while she planned her frivorce rape lotto victory.

Incidents like these remind me of the Incident at the Bank I have written about numerous times, in which two Anglobitches compared notes about how much money their vaginas had rewarded them in divorce court as they cashed out at a Latin American teller. My opinion of women was already pretty low at that point. But I was forced to downgrade my opinion after witnessing that cackling display.

The long and short of it is only a fool marries an Anglobitch or a woman who has adapted to Anglo culture in today’s legal and social climate. That humble advice could have saved Sanders millions. Any other rich guys who I talk out of getting married, feel free to send me a nice contribution. I’ll take a fraction of what these hos will want out of you for my consulting fee.

The story of the Scorpion and the Frog applies: Men should not be asking why they were frivorce raped by a creature whose entire nature is built on dissimulation and acting. What they should be asking is why they were stupid enough to fall for the ruse. Taking advantage of men for material and economic gain is in women’s nature. And America was insane to let these instincts return, unchecked. It’s all just a downward spiral from here.

We’ll be on the sidelines keeping you advised of some of the more egregious frivorce rape lotto cases. These happen every day, it’s not like they’re uncommon.

Ergo, women always want money for sex. All the pleasantries around the exchange and myths of “love” and “marriage” and “commitment” are just sophistry and dissimulation. Find a divorce case in which women don’t want monetary remuneration for services performed, even in the YouGoGrrl age, and you will have found the proverbial needle in the haystack.

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The Frivorce Court Lottery Strikes Again: Godfather Actor Must Pay $8,000 a Month to Ex


$5,000 a month for her? WTF?

At this humble outpost for men, it’s often said that marriage is just legalized prostitution. Here’s how it works. Women expect to be paid for services rendered, i.e. use of the Golden Vagina whether it’s a prostitute turning tricks on the street corner or an ex-wife who goes through the dissimulation of marriage before calling her lawyer and cashing in on the divorce court lottery.

Every woman has her price.

Unfortunately for legendary Godfather actor James Caan, the price for his ex-battleaxe is going to be extremely steep when her lawyers and the vagina-worshipping, lawyer ruled court system get done with him. The Daily Mail reports:

James will be responsible for paying Linda $5,000 a month until she remarries or one of them passes away.

I wouldn’t give you $5,000 to hit every hole this woman has got and have her serve me breakfast in bed the morning after. As a man who has been living quite happily on $500 a month abroad, I can promise you I hit better quality ass than this broad every day of the week. I guarantee the twenty-something foreign hotties I deal with are much more pleasant to be around than this high-maintenance granny, too.

What makes this case even more disgraceful is that this legendary actor is being forced to do work in bad movies, tarnishing his legacy in order to keep up with the payments that resulted from his court-ordered indentured servitude. The gynocentric media didn’t like Caan saying anything about his legacy being threatened. Check out the snippy tone in The Daily Mail:

Perhaps the most striking claim in the documents is that Caan feels the money issues are forcing him to take sub-par roles in order to keep up financially.

Ooooh, I guess he really stepped out of line, there. See, you have to smile as you’re being divorce raped.

By the way, what ever happened to the Don’t Need a Man™ mantra of feminists? It seems they DO need men, at least when time comes to settle up for sexual services rendered at the end of a relationship or marriage. Well, they need his finances.

Evidence is mounting women never actually love men as much as they love male social status, financial status, and power, as detailed in a previous TNMM article on the subject: Can a Woman Love a Man?


Another legendary actor gets cleaned out by the Anglo-American frivorce court system

The Frivorce Court Lottery

So just how much in total will Caan’s post-expiration date granny be winning from the Frivorce Court Lottery when he is turned upside down and shaken by the court system?

The 76-year-old Godfather actor reportedly must pay $400,000 in retroactive spousal support and child support, a sum which will also cover their joint assets. In addition, the Hollywood legend will pay $3,124 per month in child support until son Jacob, 18, finishes high school next year.

What makes the excesses of this system worse is the fact a man must continue to make payments even if he becomes disabled or is unable to maintain his income. Now we know at least one plausible explanation as to why legendary actor Robin Williams offed himself after being cleaned out and enslaved by the same farce.

As reported by The Washington Times in a separate article on such abuses of the court system, those of the same type as the Caan case:

Alimony reform is sought in many states because it can result in grotesque financial abuses: Hefty payments can be ordered for life — even if a marriage was brief — and can be hard to change or terminate even when the payer loses a job, falls ill or reaches retirement age and end of a salary.

Shakespeare must have written “Kill all the lawyers!” for a reason. The family law book has been extensively expanded in the last 50 years, in a way that benefits women and lawyers and filches men.

Family law has been intentionally grown into a lengthy, complex process that forces divorcing couples to hire experts to get them through it — and this has given rise to a lucrative, $50 billion-a-year industry.

So, what does Caan get to keep? It’s definitely not his dignity or testicles. As reported by gossip rag TMZ:

He gets to walk away with most of his fine art pieces… some worth tens of thousands of dollars a piece. He’ll even get to keep his prized horse. Head intact.

Still want to get married someday?

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Heeding the Warning of The Married Beta Male Stare of Despair


While princess gossips on the phone, one poor bastard realizes the trap he’s gotten himself into – the marriage trap

The 2015 film The Life of an Unhappily Married Man got the look right. That’s it, that’s it right there. Have you seen it among your friends? It’s what I call the Married Beta Male Stare of Despair. Beer in hand, he looks on, completely emasculated as his gleeful wife knows she has a meal ticket in hand and thanks to our wonderful legal system, can do pretty much whatever she wants to him short of murder and get by with it. Nay, be cheered on by a male-hating society.

Once the Predatory Female has a man’s balls in a legal vice grip, no matter what happens she will walk away with cash and prizes. She can talk about being a Strong, Independent Woman™ until she’s blue in the face, yet we all know she will never, ever turn down a large divorce settlement. What a paradox.

Other examples of the Stare of Despair: As someone snaps a photo of the “happy” couple, the wife is happy in her new dress and perhaps standing in front of some new crap she bought and wants to show off in the photo, but the husband has a deeply troubled look on his face. Or, in moments of solitude the husband looks as if someone has been pissing in his Cheerios every morning of his life since he said those fateful, life-ending words, “I do.” If I’ve seen it once, I’ve seen it a thousand times. Usually among married couples who are friends of mine on Fakebook.

Just by looking at his face, one can see the weight hubby has upon him by virtue being saddled with the baggage of powering a materialistic lifestyle for wifey. He seems to be asking himself questions like: What have I gotten myself into? How the fuck am I supposed to pay for all this? Why can’t I ever satisfy her? Will she ever stop making so many demands? She doesn’t need all this crap I have to buy! What kind of creature can walk around bleeding for five to seven days and survive?

The smarter ones will be asking themselves questions like: How do I get out of this mess? If I fake my own death, can I get away from her and start a new life? If I put all my money in an offshore bank account under an assumed name, can I survive divorce?

At once, a Red Pill man feels sorry for the poor Beta bastard but at the same time realizes most of these guys are beyond redemption. Try to put an original thought in their head and a lifetime of cultural programming and brainwashing will make them lash out at you with the most incredible mental acrobatics as they voluntarily continue the life of a slave. Many won’t learn their lesson until they get put through the divorce meat grinder. Even then, once they’ve been stripped of their pride and their fortunes many men will still seek out another predatory female and let the new wife clean them out just like the old wife did. Just call it an unfortunate circumstance of nature. Many men have been programmed with the proclivity to become disposable meal tickets.

Not me.


The look of submission as the husband bows his head and reads the newspaper, caving to wifey’s increasingly ridiculous demands

Hopeless, And Sexless

Beyond becoming hopeless, most men get married with the mistaken notion that it will guarantee them a lifetime supply of sex. As we will see, this is unfortunately not the case even though women definitely use marriage as little more than a front for legalized prostitution. What’s worse, the young, nubile thing you’ve married will be losing her SMV at an ever-increasing pace as she ages. After all, men age like wine and women age like milk.

A photo of a happy married couple (at least a year into their marriage, and in which the emotions aren’t being faked for the camera) is as rare as gold-pressed latinum. Once the female has the submission of the Beta male legalized on a piece of paper and knows she controls his destiny, she can proceed to live out her materialistic fantasies without a wit as to the financial, physical and emotional stress she is causing her new provider slave. What does her husband get for his participation? The bill. And utter hopelessness about his situation. As an added insult to injury, sex, and the quality of it, decreases after marriage.

A highly respected University of Chicago study found that, while the frequency of intercourse decreases by over 700%  between the ages of 20 and 70 among the general populace, among the married the decline is even more striking. Even among couples who rate their marriages as very happy and say they are still in love, frequency of intercourse declines. In another survey, 60% of couples stated that marriage had “completely ruined the excitement of having sex.”

Meantime, the vagabonds of society like me – chastised and loathed by bitter Betas and opportunistic females alike for being single and living a swinging lifestyle banging the 20 year olds Betas secretly wish they could have and that older women are jealous of – are happy swapping out sex partners almost as often as we change underwear. After all, variety in women is the spice of a heterosexual man’s life. Louann Brizendine’s book The Female Brain knows, paraphrased by a blogger:

Men are evolutionary designed for having sexual variety. They simply have a powerful HORMONAL drive to have many partners. Sexual involvement does not include in many cases emotional attachment and connection from man’s point of view.

Notice how easy some women speak negatively about male sexual drive. Particularly when a man is in a relationship. The same way someone who never had hunger can’t understand what a starving person might be feeling. Their craving for food may seem unnatural and “over-the-top”. The only advice men hear – shame on you, suppress it, it’s easy. Blaming men for their strong sexual drive will not bring any woman far. Only understanding and eventual acceptance will.

If a man does not satisfy his need for having more than one sexual partner – his interest towards his wife/girlfriend will gradually decrease. No amount of so-called “relationship advice” such as wife wearing sexy lingerie, having sex in unusual places, etc. will help to solve this issue.

In other words, men crave sexual variety, and marriage destroys sexual variety inasmuch as it destroys other things that make men happy – freedom, minimalism and not materialism, and control over their lives.

So, the Stare of Despair also reflects a longing for some “strange” that most married men will never realize once they’ve become the legal property of a female. (Incidentally, bringing up strange also brings up an opportunity for a teachable moment. When women cheat, it’s an attack on their partner. When men cheat, it’s because we are genetically programmed to seek out and plunder strange. Men with our characteristics survived nature’s and the female’s shit tests for a reason. Our ancestors spread their seed far and wide. Modern men still have those instincts. If women want men to stop having those instincts, they should stop being manipulative and cunning and give men guarantees of paternity and fidelity. That is not likely to happen, so our philandering is not likely to go away. Nice guys who attach themselves to females in a sexual jungle most certainly finish last. Only when female sexuality is tightly controlled – no pun intended – do Beta males flourish.)


Al Bundy is another great example of the Married Beta Male Stare of Despair

But putting that all aside, instead of falling into the trap today’s men should realize that until the current legal system is set afire and begun anew, marriage has no benefit for men. Want kids? She can take them away on a whim. Want to “do the right thing” and get married? You are literally gambling your entire financial future and freedom on an emotional and disloyal creature, not a rational one.

Have you seen the Stare of Despair among your friends and family? To me, it is one of the most convincing warnings against getting married there is. Just look at men who are married? Are the happy? Or are the miserable. Are they trying to hide their misery? That said, 1 in 10 married men may actually be clueless enough (or even more rarely, dominant enough) to have a happy marriage.

But the risks of being miserable are far higher than those of being happy. I don’t want to look like a totally defeated, married guy like Al Bundy in a few short years. (Many men also gain weight and become pudgy motherfuckers with no incentive to take care of themselves, or give a damn about their lives anymore.) Make sure to show the unhappy faces of married men you know to other potential meal tickets before they make the biggest mistake of their lives and sign on the dotted line of a marriage certificate. If even one heeds the warning, you will have performed a public service of incalculable value.

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