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Betas Are Boring Because They Have to Be


She’s bored but Betas get the excitement sucked out of them when they’re responsible contributors to society

Women often cast aside “boring” men just as they would throw out last night’s garbage. It doesn’t matter what a Beta has done for her as much as what he’s done for her lately. So, he got his leg blown off in war protecting against invaders. But, Becky’s husband just bought her a new Lexus. If Beta boy doesn’t deliver, she’ll drop his dismembered ass like a hot potato. To be a successful Beta, a man has to not only bring home the bacon and give his money away freely and without reservation, he also has to be the equivalent of a comedy channel on cable TV. He must be entertaining, engaging, and eternally fun to be around.

Unfortunately, in order to become successful and productive member of society a Beta must do boring things, and he must do them well. It is a lot of work to become a Beta, even though society and women will never thank you, they will just demand more and more as The Hedonic Treadmill accelerates out of control. This prevents the Beta from developing the devil may care attitude and ready to go anywhere and do anything on a moment’s notice disposition of the carefree Alpha or Sigma.

This is a partial listing of the things that make Beta males so terribly boring to emotionally driven women. It’s easy to see how these list items suck the energy, life, and entertainment value out of Betas, as they must dedicate 40 to 60 hours a week of themselves to their jobs alone. (The average full time employee now puts in 47 hours a week!) To be a successful provider drone, men must dutifully do the following with their lives:

  • Get an education
  • Get a job
  • Keep a job
  • Maintain good credit
  • Develop a trustworthy reputation
  • Spend time supporting the community
  • Become kitchen bitches

Let’s delve into the life script of a Beta Bux provider and see if it’s appealing to you. To me, the life of a slave and becoming the human equivalent of a pack mule is repellant, so from the onset you’ll know why I ran away from this existence after figuring out the ruse thanks to the Red Pill Enlightenment of the early 21st century.


All work and no play makes Johnny a dull boy

Put on Your Beta Boy Pants

So, you want to become a Beta provider and gamble your entire life and fortune on a feckless and fickle female? Here’s the road to a lifetime of thankless labor and submission to females and bosses. It all begins with that most vaunted and worshipped of institutions, the magic education.

Study hard! While other young men are out plowing promiscuous girls after school, drinking and partying it up, and acting irresponsibly, it’s straight home for you to crack some books and earn those A’s (and occasional B’s). Teachers ensure you your hard work will pay off someday and you believe them. After all, even though as an adult man you will need comparatively little monetary resources to live a happy and fulfilling life, you aren’t going to be living for yourself as much as living to power a lifestyle of wasteful female consumerism. Therefore, you must dedicate yourself to earning the highest salary in the neighborhood for your future female master to exploit, otherwise you will be cast aside with the other incel Betas who live a life of porn and masturbation.

Kiss ass. Now that you have the rubber stamp from State U or some other institution of liberal indoctrination, it’s time to begin kissing ass, playing office politics, supplicating to female HR directors, and all sorts of fun at your new office space. Soon, you will be a real life Peter Gibbons from Office Space.

We don’t have a lot of time on this earth! We weren’t meant to spend it this way! Human beings were not meant to sit in little cubicles staring at computer screens all day, filling out useless forms and listening to eight different bosses drone on about mission statements.

Don’t rebel against the machine like Peter did, though. To keep those paychecks coming for your lady to spend, you have to brown nose and play the game. Don’t challenge authority. Just accept it. Remember, you’re here forever. (Or until another corporate merger or new “-ism” law of some type pushes you into the unemployment line.)

Worship the FICO. As a newly minted Beta drone, your objective in life now is to get and spend as much money as you can. Rather than living inexpensively for a decade or so to save up as much money as you can, and then invest that money for a life of future freedom, you will be catering to your wife’s whims. These whims will change each time a new fashion designer makes a splash, a new cookie-cutter SUV box on wheels comes out, she sees something on TV, or her friend Becky remodels her house. Therefore, you must maintain sterling credit, paying interest into the system rather than earning interest out of it as an investor. You must be ready to whip out the American Express or a car loan at a moment’s notice, depending on the tastes of your master/wife.

Be the nice guy. Feel like punching the shit out of that smart ass that just insulted you? No can do. As a Beta provider, you must learn to sublimate your emotions, hiding them deep within. You must learn to allow men, and especially women to walk all over you because you are the coolheaded nice guy in the community. Without this sterling reputation, such as if someone posts negative stories about you on social media, you aren’t bankable on the cubicle farm. The role model for Beta providers like yourself is Ned Flanders, minus the religion in the New America’s Christophobic culture. When you aren’t putting in 50 hours a week or more for thankless bosses, you’ll need to go to functions that “serve the community” i.e. those that allow your superiors to preen and polish their public image at your expense.

Be a kitchen bitch. Cooking may be oppression for women, but not for you, lowly male! While she texts Alpha affair guy, you must be in the kitchen whipping up gourmet meals for her, and if you’re lucky, the progeny she has now given you which may or may not be yours biologically. Put on your apron, tuck your scrotum neatly between your legs, and smile as you have completed the qualifications for becoming a completely gelded, used up husk of a man who benefits everyone else and their happiness instead of his own. After you finish cooking dinner, remember, a good kitchen bitch always cleans up and does the dishes afterwards.

Or, Go Your Own Way

If that lifestyle sounds abhorrent to you, you have the option to go your own way. It’s not politically correct to declare your freedom from being exploited like this, but the choice is either to live for yourself or live for everyone else. If there was a reasonable payoff for this sacrifice, as there was under patriarchy and over the course of 5,000 years of marriage worldwide, it would be understandable. But the current arrangement is nothing but male labor and resource provisioning exploitation.

It is worth adding if you behave like a Beta provider you will not be respected by women. She will get more demanding and you will get more desperate to jump through her hoops as time goes on. Just look at how many demands have already been placed on men, detailed in the above listing, enough to consume all the Beta’s waking hours from his youth on through his death. As long as the checks are clearing and she is receiving benefits for associating with you, she’ll hang around although she’ll probably be lusting after stronger men and assholes (i.e. the romance novel genre proves this) or acting on her desires for Alpha Fux as more and more women do these days.

This life is the height of ridiculousness, to me, to pay for a bunch of junk people really don’t need. Better to not participate than play in a game that has been shamlessly tilted. It’s a sad commentary on the misandry in our society when it takes so little to make men happy, yet women refuse to do anything that might bring some life into a worker drone’s life, unless he has some money she wishes to extract from him. So, our choice is to be the boring Beta who gets crumbs off the sexual table if he’s lucky, or the asshole Alpha who gets puss thrown at him. As has been said before here at TNMM, there is no nice way of dealing with women if you want to keep one around.

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The Hedonic Treadmill Explains Why You Can’t Buy a Woman’s Love


Money can’t buy love

If the timeless maxim Alpha Fux, Beta Bux has not shunned you from turning yourself into a walking ATM machine for women, the concept of The Hedonic Treadmill will explain another reason it is impossible to satisfy women with material things and why you are ultimately digging a trap for yourself by trying. Never try to buy love. There is a scientific, psychological reason it will not work, beyond the fact you cannot negotiate desire. It is called The Hedonic Treadmill. The textbook definition says:

The Hedonic Treadmill is the observed tendency of people to quickly return to a relatively stable level of happiness despite major positive or negative events or life changes.

What the concept amounts to is no matter what expense a man goes through to make a woman happy, she will quickly get used to her new jewelry, house, or standard of living and expect even more from him. It is a four-step process which works like this:

  1. Becky’s husband works at a job he doesn’t really enjoy an increasing number of hours and with increasing demands on his psychological and physical health to afford her a material life that is comparable to that of her friends. Never mind she doesn’t really need all that stuff, competitive consumption is what women thrive on.
  2. After he buys her what she wants, or as in many cases a single income is not enough to feed this monster and she goes to work herself to be able to buy even more junk, she is temporarily happy showing off her new clothing, accessories, and other baubles to her friends.
  3. The excitement of the new purchases quickly wears off. Becky returns to her previous level of happiness despite the huge sums of money spent and debt accrued.
  4. Becky begins to dream about even more stuff, and bigger purchases. She needs a fancier car, a bigger house, and an exotic vacation at a 4-star resort. Which returns this cyclical process back to step 1, and the cycle repeats until either her husband falls off the treadmill (job loss, heart attack etc.) or she finds a more appealing meal ticket to power her life of vanity.

This infographic explains the concept in further detail.


The best advice: Stay off the treadmill!

Taken for a Ride

Hopping on The Hedonic Treadmill is a great way to waste the best years of your life, and much of your income and investment potential on someone who will never be grateful for the sacrifices you have made. She will expect more, and more, and more. The materialistic and consumeristic culture that has arisen as a way of feeding this monster is a blight on society and a waste of human potential. As Becoming Minimalist puts it:

No one is going to stand up at [Becky’s] funeral and say, “She had a really expensive couch and great shoes.”

Indeed, don’t make life about stuff. Not basing one’s life on the acquisition of shiny things is a difficult concept for women. However, once basic needs are met in Maslow’s hierarchy, more money does not equal more happiness in women (or men). In scientific studies of happiness, the difference in happiness between someone who makes $5,000 and $50,000 a year is huge; however the difference in happiness between a $50,000 and $5 million salary is not all that great. The idea of “mo’ money, mo’ problems” applies.


Today’s advertising appeals to base emotions instead of intellect

People Have No Idea Why They’re Doing What They’re Doing

Today’s advertising and marketing is designed to trigger emotional responses using Freudian psychology, which women are especially susceptible to. In addition to emotional manipulation, it is nearly impossible to get women to restrain their gathering instincts. After all, we are a species of hunter-gatherers and gathering is what women do. Marketers know this, and they abuse this evolutionary adaptation of women at every opportunity.

Consumerism in America is based on the successful manipulation of this quirk of female psychology, and indeed women make up a whopping 80% of purchasing decisions in this economy. However, The Hedonic Treadmill shows us the things women buy, or that men foolishly buy for them will never make them happy. Investopedia explains:

The hedonic treadmill theory explains the oft-held observation that rich people are no happier than poor people, and that those with severe money problems are sometimes quite happy. The theory supports the argument that money does not buy happiness and that the pursuit of money as a way to reach this goal is futile. Good and bad fortunes may temporarily affect how happy a person is, but most people will end up back at their normal level of happiness.

One of the most successful marketers in the 21st century, Clotaire Rapaille, who was a psychologist before realizing he could make much more money manipulating people psychologically for advertisers than helping people, explains how disconnected from reality people are when it comes to buying things:

My experience is that most of the time, people have no idea why they’re doing what they’re doing. They have no idea, so they’re going to try to make up something that makes sense. Why do you need a Hummer to go shopping? “Well, you see, because in case there is a snowstorm.” No. Why do you buy four wheel drive? “Well, you know, in case I need to go off-road.” Well, you live in Manhattan; why do you need four wheel drive in Manhattan? “Well, you know, sometimes I go out, and I go—” You don’t need to be a rocket scientist to understand that this is disconnected. This is nothing to do with what the real reason is for people to do what they do. So there are many limits in traditional market research.

Rapaille works for 50 of the Fortune 100 companies helping them sell their wares, and his specialty is using Freudian psychology to sell luxury items. He sold the Hummer to women by appealing to their limbic or “reptilian” brain as he calls it.

The campaign for the Hummer—the Hummer is a car with a strong identity. It’s a car in a uniform. I told them, put four stars on the shoulder of the Hummer, you will sell better. If you look at the campaign, brilliant. I have no credit for it, just so you know, but brilliant. They say, “You give us the money, we give you the car, nobody gets hurt.” I love it! It’s like the mafia speaking to you. For women, they say it’s a new way to scare men. Wow. And women love the Hummer. They’re not telling you, “Buy a Hummer because you get better gas mileage.” You don’t. These are cortex things. [The key is to] address the reptilian brain.

So, advertisers are screwing with our minds and the minds of women in ways we don’t even understand. In addition to not buying lasting happiness, a life of consumerism contributes to huge amounts of waste, and keeping the materialism machine running exploits men who turn themselves into Beta providers.


Do not be exploited to feed women’s lust for consumerism

Male Utility Exploited

A mistake men often make is attempting to be the resource provider for women they are romantically or sexually interested in, only to find themselves caught in a trap they cannot get out of. Thus, they have to work harder and harder and sacrifice more and more of themselves only to end up used, broke, and alone when their utility value has been totally exhausted. The Predatory Female, a Red Pill men’s classic book, offers this sage advice:

Any combination of money, romance, and excitement – the scent of these accommodations will have [a woman] rising like a cobra in a wicker basket. The provider of such diversions occupies center stage in her life, but his identity is unimportant to her, and it’s a temporary position. Nobody can amuse her forever. All pied pipers eventually fade into the past.

You will fade from her life once your provisioning capability has been taken past its limit. Attempting to satiate women’s desire for useless crap is the wrong strategy. It is much better to be the man who challenges her and stands up to her rather than the man who gets exploited. Men should consider walking out on, or reducing their participation in a system that is rigged to take advantage of them in this way. Continuing from The Predatory Female:

The matriarchal system could never operate efficiently without the hordes of male drones it has created. These men, preconditioned by their mothers and suffering from a self-imposed order of chivalry, consistently front for the system and its predatory female masters.

If you allow her to become your master, women will readily use sex or even the promise of it without delivering to extract the resources they want from men:

In the advanced stages of sexual hypnosis, the male may subconsciously want to crawl into the vagina and live there. Most normal, healthy men are capable of becoming total slaves to a well orchestrated sexual enticement and the predatory female is acutely aware of this. If necessary, she will stretch that vulva right over his head and smother him to get what she wants.

So, what action can men take to keep from being turned into a walking wallet?


Women naturally gravitate towards a confident man who invests in himself rather than in women

Look Out For Number One

The best advice for men is to adopt a philosophy of continuous self-improvement by investing in themselves instead of women, and to Learn Game in a sexual market that no longer provides any modicum of respect for the Beta provider. Men will be much better off this way; the alternative is working themselves into an early grave only to be discarded once a more affluent meal ticket comes along for the woman he is providing for, or he becomes overextended and can no longer maintain her shopping and eating out lifestyle after a job loss, injury, or disability.

Another alternative is to give up on women completely as many MGTOWs have done. For the man who enjoys sex or female companionship, this may not be an appealing option.

Men do not naturally look out for themselves in the same calculating way that women do. Call it a genetic weakness built into male psychology. After all, reproduction is job one biologically speaking and in the past a man who could provide served a crucial niche in the sexual market. Since an abundance of material things and money are floating around in today’s society and sexual restraints have been lifted from women, this tactic has been rendered virtually useless.

It is time for men to put their own self interests above those of women. Women will naturally gravitate towards a self-confident man who invests in himself rather than a man who lets women shamelessly exploit his finances and self-respect. If men do not put their self interest first, they can find themselves either caught up in the unforgiving machinery of the hedonic adaptation, bankrupt, alone, or all three.

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