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When Sex Loses Its Mystical Quality


Women profit by keeping sex in front of men, but always tantalizingly just out of reach

In the West, women and social engineers profit by keeping sex shrouded in mystery, awe, and fascination. Sex is everywhere, but there’s none to be had for the average man.

But what happens when a man is getting more ass than a toilet seat? Sex loses its mystical quality, and female power over him evaporates. Unlike innumerable chumps, he is pussy-whipped no more. He quickly stops caring what women think, doesn’t listen to anything they say, breaks all the rules and plays all the fools. What happens? Rather than reducing his prospects, even more women come his way. (Some guys humorously say women have picked up the scent when this happens.)

It’s really quite like a cascade effect. Women who know he has a main dish, want to be his side dish – in my case a chick named Rosangela explicitly telling me so as she sent video of herself masturbating to my instant messaging account. A sexual bounty is truly quite an experience for a man, as women have to work to keep a man’s attention rather than the other way around.

I’ve already gone through so many women this year I’m having trouble keeping track of them all in my own personal Little Black Book of statistics, names, and star ratings. Jack Ronin of The Savage Lifestyle describes own his transition into the world of zero fucks given.

For me getting the f-close was cool and all but the hilarious shit I said and did to get me there was the juice I began to crave. Every time I did some crazy asshole shit I would tell myself, “Alright Jack, this time you gotta one up yourself.”

From making out with girls in front of their boyfriends, choking girls within 20 secs of meeting them and grabbing sluts out of groups of chodes to take them to the dance floor make out and finger them while the chumps stood by completely bewildered. I was on a fucking rampage.

All this resulted as many of us started out as men who originally wanted nothing more than a nice, humble family and chased that carrot for 30 years or more before realizing there was no way to win and we embarked on a new Going Galt lifestyle. Unlike eat, pray, love, this lifestyle has a philosophical foundation. It’s about bringing down the remaining vestiges of a corrupt, gynocentric system, refusing to play along in a subordinate role, and having fun while doing so.

But wait, there’s more. Here are some findings that resulted in sex losing its mystical quality for me. I’ve been having so much of it since taking the Red Pill and learning what really makes women tick, I am able to think more clearly about it.


The long, sordid and cross-cultural history of harems in our species is central to understanding women and how they view men and sex

Troubling Findings: The Holy Trinity of Human Sexual Behavior

My hands-on, fingers in research has yielded quite a number of disturbing findings about human sexuality. I take no pleasure in writing the things I write at times, but I am dedicated to personal integrity and telling the truth about all men’s matters. These sage words from astrophysicist Carl Sagan are my guiding light:

When he found that his long cherished beliefs did not agree with the most precise observations, he accepted the uncomfortable facts, he preferred the hard truth to his dearest illusions. That is the heart of science.

Incidentally, preferring the hard truth is also the heart of masculinity. In this case, dumping long-cherished beliefs that women are damsels and goddesses and better than men.

Give me a fucking break.

Here’s the reality. My sexual bounty has assisted me in formulating several ideas about human sexuality which are supported by reems of underground research. Ideas like harems being the norm in our species rather than the exception.

1. Harems are the norm in our species. Get used to it. From my article The History of Harems, Women Orbit, Too which details how women also display “Beta” orbiting behavior around dominant men:

The University of Wisconsin showed the practice of maintaining harems is far from unusual in history. It surveyed 1,000 historical societies to find out how common polygyny has been, and the findings are astonishing: Just 18% of historical societies were monogamous. Half of rest of the 82% had occasional polygyny and the other half had it all the time. If nothing else, this historical fact helps show why women have such contempt for Beta males – they are not as valuable for providing material things as high status men.

2. Every woman has her price. They just have different asking prices and demands for access to sex. This is based not just on human behavior, but the behavior of females in the animal kingdom who regularly trade sex for resources. These are some of my preliminary findings detailed in Transactional Sex: Every Woman Has Her Price.

Generally, female relationships with men break down into these four categories:

  • The rare and short-lived freebie: A woman develops a temporary infatuation with a new man, but her lust for him quickly wears off as she returns to her predatory instincts. The male is disposed of as his novelty value wears off and she gets “bored” with the relationship.
  • The honest and direct pay for play: A woman straight up sells sex to the male.
  • The pay as you go: Beta males rely on this tactic to keep women in their lives; women tolerate men who provide dependable financial resources while often enjoying the company (and sperm) of Alpha bad boys on the side.
  • The balloon payment: Female predatory instincts come into play in this type of relationship, as a woman fakes love for a man until such time as she can “cash in” on him and dispose of him in the court system. This is the human equivalent of the female “eating” the male as in Black Widows and Preying Mantises.

3. Anglo women are so bad they literally drive men to faggotry en masse. Incidentally, related to sexual bounty, one English scholar (Rookh Kshatriya) believes a stolid culture is why homosexuality has become so prevalent in Anglo countries across the world. Western women (especially those in English-speaking countries) are so frigid and so stingy with sex men have resorted to taking care of each other’s own sexual needs for centuries.

Biological explanations of homosexuality are currently in vogue. While they hold some truth, they do not really explain why homosexuality is more prevalent in Anglo-American countries than, for example, the Hispanic world (where it is viewed with horror). After all, if homosexuality were entirely biological in origin, it should not be culturally specific. The fact that it is implies that culture plays a decisive role in shaping homosexuality in men.

What Anglo-American cultural features dispose men to homosexuality? The answer is very simple: poor relations between the sexes. Interaction between the sexes is so unpleasant and mercenary in the Anglo-American bloc that many men derive more from relations with their own sex rather than women. This leads to exceptionally high incidences of homosexuality among Anglo-Americans.

In a crude sense, homosexuality is the best way to experience plenty of sex in a repressed society where women are taught to commodify themselves from infancy. For men of low socio-economic status, whom Anglo women automatically strike off as potential mates, homosexuality is simply the only way to get bountiful supplies of free sex.

This latent homosexuality has been hidden until the last few decades, until social engineers perhaps decided mainstreaming it might be a way to ease mounting tension (no pun intended) in a culture that has shifted to the 80/20 rule since feminism.

A gay acquaintance of mine confirms with his own first hand accounts that many of the men who have gay sex on the side are indeed upstanding members of the community and “manly men” married to Anglo wives in sexless marriages. In short, they gotta get their rocks off some way, even if it’s on the down low. I was stunned by this revelation when he dropped the beans years ago. Today, I’m not surprised at all.

No matter what people say about these truths, the simple fact is using this knowledge yields results. Knowing women orbit and even form harems around dominant men while using and abusing good guys, that relationships broadly fall into one of four groups above, and that women are so bad in Anglo nations they literally drive men to queerness, a man is able to make decisions that result in rains falling on a sexual desert.


Keeping sex shrouded in mystery and mysticism makes men do just about anything to “get to the other side” inside a woman

When Sex Isn’t Mystical Anymore

When sex loses its mystical quality for men, women lose their bargaining chip. If women don’t control sex, they don’t control anything.

Sexual scarcity in the West is how women (and social engineers) keep men “under control.” Take it from someone who’s been there and been on both sides of this equation. Western women literally treat Betas like dogs. Be a good boy and bring me a material reward, and I might pet you and reward you with sex. Now wag your tail. Off to the grind you go!

In the West, sex is strictly controlled under a “seller’s market.” However, leave the insanity of a declining civilization and suddenly sex becomes a figurative “buyer’s market.” Women don’t seem to realize the cultural tightrope they keep men on only works inside specific little geographic areas. When a man has a surfeit of taut, nubile ass everywhere he turns, he’s less likely to put his entire life’s labor on the line for a depreciating asset. (As we all know, women are depreciating assets, with sharp declines in SMV after age 30.)

One might add that Americans only make up 5% of the world population. Among the 95% of the world’s population outside its borders, Anglo men are cherished and rare commodities for hypergamous women worldwide. The more men who discover just how badly they’re getting treated by women and those doing their bidding in the corporate-government complex, the more men are likely to Go Galt. It’s the metaphor of killing the goose that lays the golden egg playing out in real life.

All it takes to keep the goose laying the golden egg is for women to treat men like men. It won’t happen for a few different reasons. What stops the cult of feminism from utterly and completely collapsing? Men defending the status quo.

Latent Puritanism resurfaces in all kinds of areas of life in Anglo countries, from the gynocentric legal system to the deification of women and villainization of men in the media, to the White Knight effect. We still see a “goddess cult” revealing itself in many areas of life. “Alpha signalers” will come in and defend the honor of the goddesses, as so cleverly stated by a commenter at TNMM last week:

Saying that you’re done with fat, pussyhat wearing American nightmares is red meat because they get to shrug and say, “I haven’t had any problems with American women dude. I must be better than you, I guess. Go motorcycling through North Dakota. Pussy everywhere. Every truckstop is just filled with ass bro.”

That’s an emotional counterbalance to the stunning and often painful truths elucidated above.

Meantime, it behooves all men to become better PUAs or to let hypergamy work for them by “flying up out this bitch” and putting their intrinsic male value to work for them somewhere else. Once a man has the culturally-specific mirage of sexual mysticism lifted from his eyes, he never quite sees the world the same way again.

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The History of Harems: Women Orbit, Too


It’s good to be king: Italian artist Belisario Gioja painted Entertainment in the Harem depicting the lifestyle in the 19th century

Beta males usually orbit women they are sexually interested in. Just as Earth revolves around the sun because of gravitational attraction, the hapless Beta male will go into orbit around a girl he finds attractive. The girl he is orbiting will often use him for feels, to get help with homework or other tasks she doesn’t like doing, or as a plutonic companion to cull boredom. He thinks he will get a foot in the door with her, and then a penis in the vagina, but the reality is he will be going home to fap while daydreaming about her each day.

Nature, it would seem, it not without a sense of irony as women orbit, too. However, in contrast to the sexless, hopeless Beta male, the orbiting female will be attracted to a man of very high status, wealth, and/or power and she will be happy make herself sexually available to him, even though she has to orbit him along with other females who are attracted by the scent of his resources or power. The harem arises from this tendency of women to orbit high status men.

Women will often try to justify this behavior the same way a squid attempts evasion, by dropping figurative ink into the discussion. They’re just hanging around because he is such an interesting guy. Just because these girls are with him doesn’t mean there’s anything sexual going on. She just likes him as a person. You are just jealous because you don’t have girls around you like that. Whatever. Hamster rationalization, anyone? Let’s analyze this: Some leftist guy that goes around harping about global warming, with no pecs, a flabby stomach, and a beard befitting a bum does not collect a large gathering of nubile females unless he has something they want. But that’s exactly what Leonardo DiCaprio is, as depicted in the photo below, except he has status, wealth, and power. Which brings us back to Briffault’s Law, a frequent piece of scientific evidence frequently referred to here at TNMM:

Where the female can derive no benefit from association with the male, no such association takes place.

The gist of Briffault’s Law is this: women are nature’s consummate users. Nothing against them personally, that’s just the way evolution designed them. Female orbiting is their way of saying: “Pick me, pick me!” to a male they have zeroed in on as someone who has vast resources they can consume. This instinctual drive, plainly seen in this paparazzi photo, carries over to this day and has a long history in our species.


Without his money, status, and power, do you think women would be orbiting the soft Beta male Leo?

History of Harems

The behavior of women orbiting men that are useful to them and the practice of women becoming part of a harem both go back thousands of years, if not much further back in unrecorded human history. The term harem is a Turkish word that refers to polygyny as historically practiced in Muslim households, although the practice of polygyny was common in Asia and other parts of the world as well. The Ottoman sultan usually kept a harem of several dozen women, including girlfriends and wives. Far from “oppression” that women claim such behavior to be, modern day evidence of this behavior, as females orbit around high status men like Leo is plain as day. Indeed, history shows countless women circling one dominant man was a highly regulated affair in the Ottoman Empire.

The harem was not just a place where women lived. Babies were born and children grew up there. Within the precincts of the harem were markets, bazaars, laundries, kitchens, playgrounds, schools and baths. The harem had a hierarchy, its chief authorities being the wives and female relatives of the emperor and below them were the concubines. There was mother, step-mothers, aunts, grandmothers, step-sisters, sisters, daughters and other female relatives that lived in the harem. There were also ladies-in-waiting, servants, maids, cooks, women official and guards.

Even though the English harem word derives from that part of the world, it was not just an Islamic practice . Here are some other parts of the world in which women were in harems of a dominant man rather than the one and only of hapless Beta males, the exact type of male they show open contempt towards today:

  • Egypt: Pharaohs demanded to be in the constant company of numerous beautiful girls.
  • Sri Lanka: King Kashyapa had a harem that numbered 500.
  • Mexico: Montezuma had 4,000 concubines when he met Cortez.
  • China: One emperor had 2,800 concubines.
  • Africa: Junior wives and concubines orbited Chieftans.
  • Mongolia: Genghis Khan fathered so many children 1 in 200 men have his DNA today.
  • In other cultures, one wife was shared by several brothers.

The University of Wisconsin showed the practice of maintaining harems is far from unusual in history. It surveyed 1,000 historical societies to find out how common polygyny has been, and the findings are astonishing: Just 18% of historical societies were monogamous. Half of rest of the 82% had occasional polygyny and the other half had it all the time. If nothing else, this historical fact helps show why women have such contempt for Beta males – they are not as valuable for providing material things as high status men. The Guardian reported these statistics:

New Scientist magazine suggested that, until 10,000 years ago [a blink of an eye in biological time] most children had been sired by comparatively few men. Variations in DNA, it said, showed that the distribution of X chromosomes suggested that a few men seem to have had greater input into the gene pool than the rest. By contrast most women seemed to get to pass on their genes.

As New Scientist proved, historically, only a fraction of males got to reproduce, and indeed the measure of man’s wealth and power was often how many women he had in his harem or how many wives and children he had. We still see echoes of this innate female behavior to “sex the winner and nix the loser” play out in society. Women will prostrate themselves before rock stars, movie stars, and other men of status while totally abandoning the honest, hardworking Beta males in society. This is commonly referred to as the Pareto Principle, or the 80/20 rule, 80% of women chase after the top 20% of men. Historically, it was always a safer bet to ration precious eggs to top men, rather than take a chance on those who would like be fodder for leaders to use in the next battle. Women still exhibit this bias towards men to this day, even though environmental conditions have changed.

The practice of polygyny and a few top men getting all the puss has been going on so long in our species new studies are showing women evolved to have sexuality that is more “fluid” than male sexuality, and will often become bisexual, having sex with other women to please the dominant man who runs the harem and jockey for position in the hierarchy of wives and concubines.

Even though feminism is constantly in the face of Beta males making demands, we see top males like Hollyweird actors are virtually immune to criticism from women for having an entourage of young women with them wherever they go because of their social status. But, could you imagine the outrage if the average Beta male worker drone went around his neighborhood everyday with an entourage of young, nubile women? Women would be incensed and instantly move to destroy such a man with verbal venom. (That is, of course, laughable both because women would not associate with such a man – they cannot extract resources from him all at the same time.) In spite of feminism, even in our modern “progressive” times, the practice of holding harems still exists. Polygyny is still legal in these countries to this day:

  • South Africa
  • Egypt
  • Eritrea
  • Morocco
  • Malaysia
  • Iran
  • Libya

Christianity stamped out the practice of maintaining harems and polygyny in much of the world, starting with missionaries converting people in Africa. However, today as Christianity and the monogamy it enforces both decline the practice is actually seeing somewhat of a revival.

Some even say by bringing it back it is a way for societies to assert their beliefs in defiance of Western “cultural imperialism.” (Ed: The liberal talent for inventing word jumbles in their quest to be eternal victims is as amazing as it is pathetic.) Even though the idea of harems and polygyny is completely and totally at odds with the gender equality feminists claim to worship, we do not hear them condemning actors for maintaining a harem. Quite to the contrary, they will defend the behavior and call men who point out their cognitive dissonance “losers.” We also do not hear them condemning Middle Eastern societies where it is still practiced. But we do often hear invented terms like stare rape, microaggression, and other such nonsense regularly used against Western Betas.

Now you know when you see women scream and throw their panties at rock stars, and orbit dominant males in society, there is a biological and historical reason for their behavior. As with many things in life, it’s winner take all, including all the sex. This is why it is infinitely better for a man’s sex life to choose to be an azzhole than it is to be a nice guy. Niceness gets you nowhere, historically or otherwise, except placed in orbit around a female who will at best take advantage of you to do things and buy stuff for her. Being dominant means women will orbit you instead.

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