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First Time Threesomes: Tell Women What to Do

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You have to take the reigns and lead women when having a threesome

The menage a trois can be one of the most thrilling of sexual experiences for the heterosexual male. Historically, in man’s wilder days, it meant the chance for him to pass on his genes with not one but two women at the same time. Today, it usually doesn’t represent the same potential for genetic success but it’s still the pinnacle of male success in the mating market. Banging two women (or more) at the same time does come with its share of complications, though. Most often, I have found that women are confused about what to do or are shy and reticent once the party is about to get started. As the ZFG Alpha or Sigma, you can instruct them in what you want done so as to maximize pleasure for yourself.

I noticed the need to lead women after I started having threesomes. Girls were often trash talking and excited about having the threesome until we got to the bedroom. Then, there would be awkward looks and uncomfortable laughter and reluctance to begin the festivities once the rubber was about to meet the road. So, I quickly learned I would have to take charge of the situation and tell the girls what to do.

Most of the threesomes I have had have been with two women who are not experienced in orgies, so naturally as a man I had to guide them. Contrary to what feminists will tell you a man who makes demands rather than asks for things goes a lot farther with women. Here are 5 simple steps to help make a better threesome as you boss your lovers around.

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As with many things in life, threesomes get better with experience

A Better Threesome

Discuss what you want to do before hand. So the girls are not surprised when you get to the bedroom, talk with them about what you will all do before you get started. This is best done when setting up the threesome. If it’s two girls you have met in a bar, find out beforehand if the two girls you are with will be screwing each other in addition to screwing you, or if it will just be a “straight” threesome in which the girls won’t be doing anything sexual with each other, i.e. only pleasuring you and not each other. I’ve had threesomes that went both ways, sometimes the women would do each other, although most of the time they just focus on me. It is good to know this so there’s no surprises.

Drink a little to take the edge off and have some sexy music ready to go. It’s always a good idea to have some alcoholic beverages (or even some recreational drugs if that’s your bag) once everyone arrives in the bedroom. Whether it’s as simple as a beer in a hotel room or red wine or champagne, drinking always helps get everyone in the right frame of mind and releases social inhibitions. Some sexy times music and the right lightning also helps set the mood. One of my musical favorites for threesomes is High for This by TheWeeknd.

When in the bedroom, sit in between them hugging both and talk to both of them. As the man, you have to be the ringleader of the operation. Sit in between them on the bed, put your arms around both of them and be the ZFG overconfident jerk that allowed you to land in this situation in the first place. Don’t pull back and start acting Beta just because you have two hot women about to get naked with you. Once everyone is ready, tell them to take their clothes off – don’t ask them to. Chicks get lost easily, and believe me two girls will be looking for you to take charge though they’ll never admit it.

Decide which girl you want to screw first and which to finish with. This is an issue that never really occurs in the minds of many men until they have two naked women in front of them and the women are looking at him not knowing what to do. Again, your leadership qualities will be called upon so once they’re naked decide which girl you want grinding you and which you want sitting on your face and wriggling.

Let go of inhibitions. The first few threesomes may seem a bit awkward. This will lessen as you gain experience banging multiple women at the same time. Alcohol or recreational drugs will help curb some of the natural inhibitions you might have as a member of a sexual party of three, or just having the right attitude will do the same thing. The wilder and more exciting things get the more likely you and the girls are to enjoy it and to want an encore. Personally, I’ve gotten to the point having a threesome doesn’t phase me anymore. This is after I was inhibited and a little nervous the first few times I banged two chicks at the same time.

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My threesomes usually involve two black or brown women, I get to be the cream filling in the Oreo

Final Thoughts

Personally, I am not fond of using a condom with my regular sex partners which is why I will look for sex partners who I feel comfortable banging without protection. I will say that if there’s any doubt about a girl I will strap on a jimmy before entering the love cave. But through personal experience I have come to the opinion that STDs are not as common as we are led to believe. (Note: This is a personal opinion.)

Note that some women form emotional attachments easily so banging another woman in front of a regular sex partner may cause a jealous woman to do crazy things. If possible, it’s best to have threesomes with women who you have no emotional investment in and who likewise have no emotional investment in you. This keeps things from getting messy.

These are some common sense, introductory ideas that will help you enjoy a more exciting and sexually fulfilling threesome next time you set one up. Threesomes are exciting and fun diversions from the normal sexual routine, and I recommend all men try one at least once just for the personal satisfaction of knowing they’ve done it.

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On Threesomes

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There are some practical considerations before having a threesome

The ménage à trois. For many heterosexual men, it is the pinnacle of sexual experience. I had a chance to do one at age 19 but like many young men fumbled on the follow through because I was a “nice guy,” so I had to wait until I was in my 30s and had stopped being a “nice guy” who got used by women to experience one. Once the nice guy died and the asshole in me came out, I’ve had numerous threesomes.

Of course the ménage, usually known as a threesome or three-way, is a form of group sex between a man and two women. (Variations exist but I’m never inviting another man into my bedroom, so that discussion is dead on arrival). Since most men already understand the basic plot of a threesome, my intent with this article is to offer some advice to would-be ménage participants as a man who has had 7 different threesomes with 14 different women in the past few years. I’m by no means an expert, but I have learned a few important things along the way.

History shows the practice has been common throughout history. Indeed, there’s the history of harems going back thousands of years as many women “gravitate” towards and orbit dominant males or those who have a lot of cash. Historical studies have also show women will do anything for an Alpha male, as studies from England have shown women’s sexual orientation is more loosely defined than men’s.

Before getting started, realize that some threesomes go hand in hand with recreational drug use to heighten the pleasure of the experience. I am by no means recommending it, but pot has enhanced my pleasure when doing two chicks at the same time. Cocaine comes with some risks – make sure you have a couple of Viagra on hand. Even Robin Williams comically knew the risks that come with the coca:

Cocaine – paranoid and impotent, what fun. There was no bit of me thinking, ooh, let’s go back to that. Useless conversations until midnight, waking up at dawn feeling like a vampire on a day pass. No.

So, miscellanea and some humor aside, let’s get down to brass tacks. Here are some important considerations to make when enjoying two chicks at the same time.

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What’s your fantasy? A lot of men’s fantasies look like this

Considerations

1. Pick a spot where you’ll be left alone. This is logistically very important, especially if either of the three of you need to keep this incident on the DL. A hotel is probably the best choice, but you can have the ménage in your own bedroom if there’s no risk of someone barging in on you or of interruptions from your roommate, etc. Turn off cell phones, put on some nice, sexy music, dim the lights, have some red wine and other assorted edibles (chocolate, strawberries, etc.) available. Pick a spot where you won’t be rushed and have at least several hours, if not all night to let the adventures unfold.

2. Decide which chick you want to get off with. The reason I recommend deciding this before getting started is it alleviates some of the confusion once the activities get started. I will even ask the girls I am having the ménage with: Which one of you is going to start me and which one of you are going to finish me? And by that, of course, I mean who is going to be giving me the first and last intercourse while the other participant sits on my face and wriggles and brings me all sorts of other sensual delights. There is nothing quite like the scent of two women on your nose and mustache after all is said and done…but I digress.

3. Tell the women where you want each of them to be. Once the discussion about who’s doing what has completed, tell them where each one of them goes. Example: Nicole, I want you here and Yolanda I want you here. I find women are often a little confused and reticent when the show begins, especially if they have either never had a threesome or have them infrequently. Instructing them helps clear up the confusion and helps ensure that you’ll all come out happy. Does one girl like oral sex more than the other? That’s the one you can have sitting on your face. Does one girl hump better than the other? (Inevitably, one girl will move better and have better rhythm than the other.) Put her in the humping position. It’s really your choice in this buffet of debauchery.

4. Optimally, all should be participating at the same time. While one girl kissing you or licking your nipples while the other one either gives you oral or intercourse is nice, the best threesomes I’ve had happen when both girls are engaged at the same time. Things can get wild at this point, and two normally straight-laced women can get very nasty if everyone’s mojo starts to flow. Two straight women can start licking each other and kissing each other while they both do things to you. It’s really amazing if everyone lets go of their inhibitions.

5. Swap out. Swap out as many times as you like. Different positions, different techniques, 69 a girl while the other helps you, there are so many possibilities. Use your imagination. Once you feel you are getting ready to explode, timing is important so it’s time to swap positions and put Yolanda (the one who will finish you) in the intercourse position and Nicole, for example, in the oral position. Afterwards, it’s fun to have some pillow talk with one chick on each side of you and discuss what was good and what could be even better next time.

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My best and wildest threesomes have been with two black women

Wrapping Up

Are these two women you will need to use protection with? Or do you trust them enough just to use the withdrawal method? Or would you like to finish in the girls’ mouths? These are important things to consider, as well.

I do not recommend having a threesome with a girlfriend you want to keep around, unless she is the type who just likes to have a lot of sex. Most of the time, having a threesome with your girlfriend and another participant will lead to problems as once she sees you inside another girl, things change. All my threesomes have been with women I “catch and release” – in other words women I have no short-term or long-term romantic entanglements with. We are all just in it for fun. This technique eliminates so many potential problems that can arise when a man is in a relationship.

This guide focuses on practicalities, not techniques when having a threesome. It’s the groundwork for a more pleasurable and less stressful experience. I was totally lost the first time I had a threesome, and while it was a ton of fun, it could have been even better if someone had filled me in on some of the logistics of the operation. Hopefully, this quick and dirty guide (in addition to my quick and dirty guide on picking up girls) will help you plan a better ménage with your girls.

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