Women are consummate materialists, and statistics prove it (beyond the song Material Girl that made Madonna’s entire career 30 years ago). More than half of women in Anglo America would dump the man they “love” if he didn’t deliver a gift on a birthday or for Valentine’s Day. Attention Betas: A stuffed animal or a box of chocolates literally has more value than your presence in the majority of women’s lives. Let that sink in the next time you break your back and your bank account to run like a rat on The Hedonic Treadmill.
Even a female relationship coach calls women out on these warped statistics. Rachel DeAlto threw up a flag on this play, criticizing women for expecting constant gifting no matter what benefits men provide to them.
I think it’s a little irrational. I understand being emotional, and obviously there’s some expectations involved, but talk about it before you make any irrational decision.
Expectations? Sounds like lot like female entitlement mentality to me. I’m worthy of gifts because I have the vagina and you do not! Nothing says “you’re a disposable meal ticket” than irrational ultimatums on useless consumer items that will either be dead in three days (i.e. flowers) or thrown into the garbage or closet. The money must be spent or you don’t love her!
Much like the classic Simpsons episode Trash of the Titans, marketers are constantly pushing for this type of wasteful holiday spending, even for made up holidays. All they have to do it get “x” number of women to participate in or expect gifts because of the holiday, and then social forces drive everyone to conform to the new ideal. Marketers have been using this playbook, pioneered by Edward Bernays for over a century. Trash of the Titans beautifully illustrates the insanity of making people spend billions on “assorted gougeables” and other crap:
Costingtons Manager: Okay, people, we need to cook up a new holiday for the summer. Something with gifts, cards, assorted gougeables.
Costingtons Woman: How about something religious? We had great penetration last spring with Christmas Two.
Costingtons Man: Oh, I know. Spendover, like Passover, less talk, more presents.
Costingtons Manager: No, no, no! No, it’s gotta be warm and fuzzy. Something like, um, “Love Day”, but not so lame.
Marge Simpson: Happy Love Day, everyone!
Think of Valentine’s Day as the real-world equivalent of Love Day. Never mind the fact women already receive 80% of the benefits of the consumer waste machine economy in the United States since they drive 4 out of 5 purchasing decisions, that’s just not enough. Men also pay 70% of all income taxes but the vast majority of government handouts benefit women. Yet paradoxically, Anlgo women claim to be Strong and Independent™ but they would be powerless without a massive government propping them up. Real Sexism presents more shocking statistics that show women spend, on average, 90% more than they earn. Women have it made at male expense but like the consummate gatherer (or hoarder – there’s an entire A&E TV series about it) there’s always something else that makes her eye sparkle. And, there’s never enough.
You must not fall into the trap: Stop buying her things! Or best of all, never start buying her things (even drinks) so there’s no expectation set. Buying women things puts you as a man in a submissive role! She is your master and your are her slave with this type of arrangement. It’s basic economics and psychology.
Spend Less, Earn More Respect
Save yourself the expensive lesson rather than trying to buy love, save and invest your money, and learn how to manipulate women’s emotions rather than letting them into your wallet. Use the money to invest in yourself instead and you’ll attract women like moth to a flame. If you look great with nice clothes, a nice car, trips to exotic locations, and money to burn there will be women orbiting you just as they orbit other high-status men. The trick is, never let them into your wallet. Use your money for you own self-aggrandizement, not theirs.
Importantly, realize women will never return the favor of buying things to you. It’s a one way street. As radio host Tom Leykis says, women are the cheapest creatures on earth, but only when it comes to their own money. Yet, they expect exorbitance from men in their lives.
The funny thing is, the less you spend on women the more respect you will earn from them. (Remember – are you the master or the slave in the relationship?) Spending and respect from women are inversely proportional. Don’t try to make sense out of the matter. Women’s behavior when it comes to gifting makes no logical sense whatsoever because women are not logical creatures, they’re emotional ones. You would think women would be grateful to men who go out of their way to please them – but they’re not. An astute manosphere commenter who calls himself John Doe sums up the play by play:
Women are adult children, read Schopenhauer, when you give everything to a child they become spoiled and uncontrollable. The reason a women loses respect for a man who gives them everything is just like a spoiled child who always gets their way, they feel like they have outsmarted their parents, and someone she can outsmart on a regular basis is deemed as inferior, thus they lose respect for them. In fact this can be applied to relationships with females in general. Married men who give into his wife’s demands trying to keep the peace are eventually deemed as inferior, followed by the wife losing respect for him. There’s no logic in this situation, it’s all about perceived feelings.
So, to summarize, spend your money on yourself and on your real friends, not strangers who you hope to bed, and not in ways that make you subservient or “pussy-whipped” to use a old maxim. Always consider any money you spend on women a loss, because that’s exactly what it will be someday, unless you have found a NAWALT magical unicorn. Gifts and spending will only curry short term favor with women, and in the long run being a “provider” puts you in a subservient role. With women, it’s never what have you done for me it’s always what have you done for me lately? Don’t fall into the trap. Stop buying things for women, and start buying them for yourself.
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