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Defining the Sigma Male


James Dean defines the Sigma male in many ways

Everybody talks about Alpha and Beta males, but few discuss the enigmatic Sigma male. However, in many ways, the Sigma male is the most interesting of all male types because he is mysterious, an outsider, and is yet a successful plunderer of poon. He is the antithesis of Mr. Popularity, the Alpha male, and yet women are drawn to him.

Since embracing my natural instincts and tossing aside the Anglo-American cultural indoctrination that grooms men to be soft-spoken utility objects known as Beta males, I have realized I am a natural Sigma male. And as a man who has shifted way from my Beta past, a role foisted upon me by society until I saw the shadows on the wall and embraced my natural, Sigma bad boy instincts I feel it’s important to define what a Sigma male is.

The crucial difference between the two top dogs in the sexual hierarchy is this: Alphas embrace and move to manipulate and dominate society’s ridiculous games in an extroverted manner, while introverted (and often more intelligent) Sigmas are repulsed by them.

Here are some more Sigma traits.


Sigmas prefer to go it alone rather than playing the ridiculous social games the rest of society obsesses over

Sigma Traits

Rebellious. Sigmas are the rebels of society, and as an INTP I am beginning to realize how deep my rebelliousness runs after shedding the coil of social indoctrination. Sigma males naturally loathe confining and arbitrary social norms and expectations, seeking instead to live original and authentic lives of their own design. In addition to a rebellious mindset, statistics show higher intelligence (which many Sigmas possess) is also correlated with more run-ins with the law. We Sigmas can find ourselves on the wrong side of the law since we have little regard for rules and regulations intended to rule the lives of “follower” men with an iron fist.

Original. Sigmas are never plain vanilla or predictable. Unlike the Alpha, they do not crave social acceptance or lofty social laurels. Many Sigmas prefer to blend into the background and watch the ridiculousness of society in a bemused manner. (The Great Master artist Bruegel the Elder comes to mind when discussing this attitude.)

Sigmas do not blindly follow groups or trends. They’re likely to have eccentric behavior and tangential interests in a number of academic fields. This leads to their greatest potential source of friction in a world of fearsome conformists: some people are put off by men with minds so original they cannot conform to the prejudices and constraints of the society they’re in, but originality is the very essence of the Sigma.

Drift in and out of social situations. This is both the Sigma’s greatest asset and worst weakness: the ability to drift in and out of high and low castes in society with ease. But we will never truly belong to any of them. I have personally walked with “kings” of society and peasants, and I see them as being more alike than not. When I worked in the mainstream media, I could be on television the first half of the day then at night partying with whores from the wrong side of town. Sigmas don’t get themselves caught up in the trappings of fleeting glory and petty social hierarchies. They define Rudyard Kipling’s statement in one of his most famous poems, If:

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
    Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
    If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
    With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
    And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

Tendency to cause conflict. Nothing scares the average person more than someone who challenges the trite myths they believe in. Sigmas are the original thought criminals of society. The original thoughts of Sigmas upset many people, who need to be told what to think and how to behave rather than determining what are appropriate thoughts and actions for themselves. This will undoubtedly cause conflict if the Sigma’s true opinions seep out into the gossip mill of the average corporate “Office Space” inferno. The freethinking Sigma will be ostracized, and Alphas will move to have the Sigma marginalized so as to try and eliminate competition with lapdog Betas following suit.

Quirky behavior. Sigmas can have quirky personalities, which again puts them at odds with Alpha males and the masses. Sigmas have an air of unpredictability and can be quite enigmatic and mysterious to those who do not take the time to try and understand him. They won’t be men who live the life script given to them by the Great Marketing Machine, that tells them which car to buy, what house to live in, and how much money to make. They also won’t treat women with supplicating deference as Beta males do, which incidentally makes women hot.

Lone wolves. Since Sigmas do not “fit in” to most social groups, we often find ourselves journeying through life alone. Many Sigmas become bad boys when they realize how innately insane society is and that there is no saving it from itself. In film, the Sigma would be the motorcycle riding guy in a leather jacket in the back of the bar. The IDGAF factor is very high in the Sigma, especially once he reaches maturity and begins to purge the sewer pumped into his mind by decades of public school and mass media programming.

Subject to social scrutiny and criticism. Nothing bothers conformists more than someone who totally rejects the sophistry and social game playing they worship. This can make the Sigma a lightning rod for criticism. As Sigmas age, they can become more adept at being “chameleons” when in social situations. They can fake being a normal rube well enough that the prejudices of the average idiot are not aroused, while knowing deep inside they hold the cards. Sigmas can possess Red Pill knowledge while blending in with the average person. This gives the Sigma great strength in that it allows mastery of both social situations and himself.

Provoke love or hate attitudes in people. Some people love the rebel. Others are terrified by what he represents. There is usually little in the middle when it comes to the reactions the Sigma provokes. People either love or hate him. Alphas often hate Sigmas once they’re identified, perhaps because the Alpha knows the Sigma sees right through the ridiculous social game playing he is beholden to. Betas will often go into orbit around the Sigma, that is unless the Sigma’s original mind and IDGAF attitude become the subject of a social stigma. Then, fair weather friend type Betas will evaporate into the ether.


Sigmas are non-conformists who drift in and out of different social situations

Further Defining the Sigma

Knowing the Sigma archetype can help other men who find themselves between a rock and hard place trying to decide whether they’re Alpha or Beta or lower on the totem pole realize they’re neither. They can also realize it’s okay to be different.

It is my personal belief that those men who possess the INTP and INTJ Kiersey/Myers-Briggs personality types are often natural Sigma males, in that many of the traits associated with those personalities are Sigma traits. A look at the descriptions of both types illustrates my point. First, the INTP, as defined by 16 Personalities:

The INTP personality type is fairly rare, making up only three percent of the population, which is definitely a good thing for them, as there’s nothing they’d be more unhappy about than being “common”. INTPs pride themselves on their inventiveness and creativity, their unique perspective and vigorous intellect. Usually known as the philosopher, the architect, or the dreamy professor, INTPs have been responsible for many scientific discoveries throughout history. INTPs are known for their brilliant theories and unrelenting logic – in fact, they are considered the most logically precise of all the personality types.

Then, the even rarer INTJ:

It’s lonely at the top, and being one of the rarest and most strategically capable personality types, INTJs know this all too well. INTJs form just two percent of the population, and women of this personality type are especially rare, forming just 0.8% of the population – it is often a challenge for them to find like-minded individuals who are able to keep up with their relentless intellectualism and chess-like maneuvering.

This does not mean every INTP or INTJ is a Sigma. However, it’s a safe bet to say many Sigmas are probably INTP or INTJ types.

In essence, the Sigma male is the model of adaptability in a cruel world. He adapts to get what he wants out of the world without participating in it, and stays true to himself and his beliefs unlike the courtiers of society. As Darwin knew, it is not the strongest of species that survive, but the most adaptable. Sigmas are case studies in adaptability, as they bang countless women while never betraying who they really are.

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My First 130 Women: What I’ve Learned


The more women I go through, the more I see they’re all the same

As I approach the big 4-0 in the coming years, I look back on half a lifetime of relationships and sex with women and what it has taught me about them. It has been a quest to find out what every man wants to know about women – what makes them tick. Those experiences are the fuel for the Truth About Women half of this blog. I started keeping a list of women I had sexual relations with about 10 years ago when the list of names of my conquests started getting too big for me to remember. At that time, as an attractive but clueless guy, my count was about 30.

The list just clicked over to 130 women this month, 100 new lays marking a new milestone a few short years after learning the principles of Game from RooshV and Heartiste, among many other fabulous men’s blogs. So, I would say by mere dint of experience as both a Beta and a Sigma male I am more qualified than most men to draw a few conclusions about the most manipulative of the two sexes. You could describe this new chapter in my life as me delving in, getting my hands dirty, conducting hands-on research in the quest to find what really motivates women – and to see if there are indeed any of those fabled NAWALT unicorns out there.

I’ve had them all. “Good girls” like the daughter of an executive who I wouldn’t marry even though it would have (at least temporarily) meant a better financial future for me. (Seeing so many men wasted in the divorce meat grinder was the motivation behind that decision). Then there was the Army sergeant who turned out to have a secret boyfriend in prison she was waiting for while we shared some good times fucking around, and the hardworking Mexican girl I dated for a number of years who was probably the highlight of my entire dating life, and not so good girls like a coke whore who I really enjoyed hanging out with just because she was so laid back and we had fun getting high together. Then there were the threesomes, with me and two girls 7 different times. (You have to instruct women what to do in a threesome, as they’re lost most of the time. That’s coming up in a future article.)

Then there was the cheating girlfriend, cleverly hiding her tracks from her Beta provider after I came over to visit her. One of the standouts was a girl I met online and drove to Miami to spend an afternoon in a hotel with having some of the nastiest, best sex of my entire life with. I got off three times in a row with her in only a few short hours. I had a girlfriend at the time but was able to keep the incident on the DL. Since putting the power of pick up artistry and hypergamy to work for me, I’ve been having more sex with more women than I care to think about. About the only thing I haven’t had a lot of is fat girls. Somewhat ugly girls, yes, there have been a few. But fat I cannot abide by. I take care of myself and so should you.

As I look back at “The List” of bangs, there are memories of big titties, little titties, saggy titties, firm titties, big asses, little asses, tight pussies, loose pussies, dark skin, light skin, women that are good in bed, women that suck in bed, women with rythym, women with no rythym, dead fishes, live wires…all encompassed in the journal I’ve kept detailing my experiences with each one.

Most of the girls on “The List” have been aged 20-30 years old, but there are exceptions like the 46-year old, stacked, black hotel manager (who incidentally had a sister in the WNBA) when I was in college and working on the road who told me “I just love white guys like you.” Next thing you knew we were getting down and dirty in the conference room after midnight. I later met her boyfriend by accident as I was a frequent guest at the hotel, the man I just cucked who was very good to her from what I could gather. Then I met her son who was only a few years younger than me, also by accident. Little did I know, I was just getting started with experiences in reality that were sometimes stranger than fiction.

My sexual experiences have spanned several races and ethnicities – black, Latina, Asian, and white – and I draw on my experiences with them and the experiences of my friends in dating and marriage as “research” for this blog. I also paid attention to what happened to other “good guys” and “bad boys” my entire life amongst colleagues at work. In almost all circumstances, the relationship script adheres to the great work of Rev. Lawrence Shannon and his book The Predatory Female. The one constant among all these women, whether “good girls” or “bad girls” was dissimulation, a concept brilliantly detailed by the philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer over century ago:

For as lions are furnished with claws and teeth, elephants with tusks, boars with fangs, bulls with horns, and the cuttlefish with its dark, inky fluid, so Nature has provided woman for her protection and defense with the faculty of dissimulation, and all the power which Nature has given to man in the form of bodily strength and reason has been conferred on woman in this form. Hence, dissimulation is innate in woman and almost as characteristic of the very stupid as of the clever. Accordingly, it is as natural for women to dissemble at every opportunity as it is for those animals to turn to their weapons when they are attacked; and they feel in doing so that in a certain measure they are only making use of their rights. Therefore a woman who is perfectly truthful and does not dissemble is perhaps an impossibility.

Along the way, there are things I’ve seen that can’t be unseen. Like the divorce of my best friend from a domineering tyrant who ended up being a bitch who cheated and destroyed the marriage, the divorce of my uncle from a useless gossip and subsequent award of his home to his ex-wife, the home he spent a lifetime at a blue-collar job paying for, the divorce of a clueless (about women) co-worker of mine, a brawny Hispanic guy willingly letting himself be cucked by his Anglo wife, and the miserable marriage of another professional colleague that’s currently in separation because he got fed up with her bullshit and denigration. In all of these cases, these men are the “good guys” of society who do not deserve the treatment they get from women.

The conclusion I’ve drawn after a lifetime of experimentation with and observation of women both of high and low socioeconomic status: everywhere I turn there are women using men as utilities and not treating them as human beings worthy of love and respect. They may feign love and respect, but only when the man she is with is providing a benefit to her and a better meal ticket has not yet presented itself. Call it the advantage of having the Golden Vagina, nature’s credit card that women use to the maximum that their figurative credit limit of youth, beauty and fertility will allow.

That’s Life

In my lifetime of ups and downs and sideways, I tried the Beta “nice guy” thing from high school on through most of my 20s only to be repeatedly used. Up through around age 30 I had bedded about 30 women and played by all the rules of society. Since I adopted many of the ideals discussed on this blog and amongst MGTOWs, PUAs, MRAs, and others, and stopped approval seeking, becoming my natural self, a Sigma male I’ve seen my count shoot up by 100 women in that short period of time.

Perhaps what has been most interesting about my writing and blogging experience so far is the unadulterated hate Realtalk generates from certain corners of society for things I see as nothing more than inconvenient truths. It has been said that truth undergoes three stages: first it is ridiculed, then it is violently opposed (we are currently between the first and second stages in the manosphere) and then it is recognized as being self-evident.

When we tell the truth about women as we see it, it’s bound to piss a lot of people off. As Aldous Huxley said, “You shall know the truth and the truth shall make you mad.” Reinhold Niebuhr knew, the masses of people need potent myths, potent oversimplifications and illusions to keep them on track. In the case of Anglo society, the myth we in the manosphere are assailing is women are all perfect goddesses and men are all evil oppressors narrative, as well as the careerism makes women happy gnome. (It doesn’t and I have been documenting that fact.)

There are those of us who can’t live a life based on a myth, and for whom only the harsh truth will do. Philosopher and historian Oswald Spengler wrote at the end of his great work Man and Technics: Optimism is cowardice. Indeed, it is the brave man who dares think outside the box, not becoming a pessimist but a realist. I find reality is neither optimistic nor pessimistic – it just is, and as I grow older I truly see life as one big cosmic joke being played on all of us. We take it far too seriously. And we overanalyze life, just as most late stage, declining societies do.

No matter what political and popularity contest costs, there are those of us who insist on searching for truth and sharing our findings with other men who can handle the truth. My experiences with such a large and growing number of women have taught me more than any feminist lecture or high minded ideals and societal myths ever could. I share one man’s opinion about my experiences with women from virtually all backgrounds so other men perhaps can learn from my lifetime of experience and “research” dating and bedding women. When dealing with women, aloofness and caution is advised. Don’t get tricked by the fleeting emotion of love only to end up being used.

I have yet to find the “unicorn” even though I’ve been all over the map in my life. Frank Sinatra illustrated the type of diverse life experience I’ve had in his classic hit “That’s Life.” I’ve lived in areas with black majorities, Hispanic majorities, and white majorities in addition to having spent time living in two foreign countries (and counting). I’ve been in the so-called “high class” social circles (which always made me cringe because of their sophistry and courtier game playing) and in the ghettos having a good time with people there who were suspicious of me at first but later said, “This white boy is cool as fuck.” I have been all of these things in Sinatra’s That’s Life:

I’ve been a puppet, a pauper, a pirate, a poet, a pawn and a king
I’ve been up and down and over and out and I know one thing
Each time I find myself flat on my face
I pick myself up and get back in the race

To paraphrase Errol Flynn, if I have any genius at all it is a genius for living. And I’m here to share those experiences with you and create a dialogue for the uncowed and awakening men who are an endangered species in the early 21st century. Experiencing my first 130 women has been one of the best and worst experiences in my life. I’ve learned a lot about women, and none of it was what I expected. But, I’ve been having a good time. Here’s to 130 more, and the ups and downs and life lessons they will bring.

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Where Do You Stand in the Sexual Hierarchy


What are your chances of hitting that? Improve your standing in the sexual hierarchy by learning about how males are subconsciously ranked by females

In nature, hierarchies are everywhere. They have been a part of history since we crawled out of the slime. In a woman’s subconscious hindbrain, she ranks men according to their social and sexual status before deciding if any of them are worthy of a visit to the love cave.

That is why learning about the Social-Sexual Hierarchy is important. Not knowing the hierarchy, then adapting accordingly to the Red Pill realities of the world will leave you in a disadvantaged position in The Mating Game. Neitzsche wrote on the importance of changing one’s opinions when faced with unpleasant facts:

The snake which cannot cast its skin has to die. As well the minds which are prevented from changing their opinions; they cease to be minds.

Adaptation is key in the sexual market. The r-selected modern sexual market and its resultant hierarchy explains why 20% of the men currently monopolize 80% of the attention and affection of women. After social restraints were lifted from women’s sexuality, Betas were abandoned in the same way Jack Dawson was abandoned by Rose, cast off to sink into the cold water after his usefulness had expired keeping her afloat in the film Titanic. Women naturally only want to pursue the very top of the sexual hierarchy when the law of the jungle returns.

In this regard, patriarchy and the nuclear family are the essential building blocks of civilization. But in the modern day free-for-all, not exploiting every advantage will leave you sexless and hopeless in Anglo America. Humans are becoming increasingly feral in this feminized environment. The bottom four-fifths of men are either angry, involuntarily celibate, or checking out of a system that treats them as little more than worker bees and subjects to extract taxes from. This is a shame, because it takes very little to make most men happy.

Where do you currently fall in the hierarchy? This infographic introduces the concept of the Social and Sexual Hierarchy.


Listed in order of sexual success with women

The Five Male Archetypes

Roughly, 20% of men are Alphas, Sigmas and top tier Betas, while the bottom 80% are other Betas, Gammas, and Omegas. We see the 80/20 rule time and time again in nature and the world, in business it is known as the Pareto Principle, and it applies to the Social-Sexual Hierarchy, too. Let’s elaborate a little more on the hierarchy.


Alphas cannot walk outside without falling into puss. The Alpha is the center of male and female attention. Women are uncontrollably drawn to the Alpha primarily because of his social status. Women would rather be part of the harem of an Alpha than the one and only of a Johnny 9-to-5 Beta or lower male in the hierarchy. Women justify the selfish and often horrible decisions they make when in the company of Alphas with their built-in Rationalization Hamster. Estimates vary widely, but the Alpha has at least 30-40, if not hundreds of sexual partners over his lifetime.


The introverted version of the Alpha. Sigmas are also very successful with women even though the idea of being the center of attention repulses them. They are Lone Wolfs and bad boys who do not play along with the usual, ridiculous social games. Estimates vary, but the Sigma has at least 30-40 sexual partners over his lifetime, but Greater Sigma notch counts can easily reach over 100 as well.


Betas tend to fumble when it comes to dealing with women. They are underappreciated and make up the majority hardworking and honest men in society. Betas do all the important work of the society but are not valued by their government or women. Betas are the source of most of the tax money used to power Uncle Sugar’s gynocentric welfare state. They can be attractive and charming, sometimes not. But as we all know social or financial status, not physical attractiveness, is everything to the female. Betas are usually kept around by women for their resources, which is why their power is diminishing in today’s sexual market. Often, a woman will have a Beta so she can spend his money while fucking an Alpha or Sigma on the side. Betas are also used and abused as well as enslaved by the family court system in America. When dating, Betas often have long dry spells in which they get no sexual action. Over their lifetime, a rough estimate is they will end up with 5-15 sexual partners.


Gammas either have no idea how vicious the sexual market is, or they become embittered by it. Gammas are either emotionally needy or do not know how to stand up to women. They can be infested with a severe case of pedestalization syndrome. Rather than adapting to harsh realities, they blame the Game for their unhappiness instead of becoming a player in it. Gammas get lucky with maybe a handful of women in their lives. Women would rather end up as the Cat Lady than marry or pursue a Long Term Relationship with a Gamma.


Omega males tend to be very awkward with women. They have little to no social status, so they are completely invisible to women. Their powerlessness in the sexual market often leads to psychological problems and indeed many of the recent mass shootings can be tied to men who were of this lowest status, as well as the medical establishment’s attempts to profit off their misery by drugging them. Needless to say, Rosy Palm and porn are their best friends. Women are repulsed by the Omega. Lifetime notch counts are in the single digits, if that.


Just because you are a Beta now doesn’t mean you have to stay one

Upward Mobility

Just because a man is born one type does not mean he has to stay that type. Improvement begins with I. Learning the Laws of Game and Laws of Hypergamy will help enormously. Realize women do not love men the way men love women. Even an Omega can adapt his mind to exploit the biology and psychology of women and become more successful in plundering poon. Likewise, a Beta can stop being a walking wallet when he learns either how to play the Game or to let women’s hypergamous instincts work for him.

These concepts are not for everyone. If you haven’t already, make the decision as to whether you want to take the Red Pill or the Blue Pill. The New Modern Man and the rest of the manosphere is written by and for those who swallow the jagged little pill of reality.

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