If there’s one commonality among the nearly 150 women I’ve bedded so far, among all nationalities and ethnicities, it’s that the vast majority of them got off on rough sex. They were most excited when being manhandled and ridden hard. They got off more intensely when I treated them like a dirty whore in bed.
When I treated them like a lady in bed, eh…not so much as far as these girls enjoying intense pleasure and throbbing orgasms. It was never whips and chains and other BDSM nonsense that turned them on. It was just spanking, pushing them around, manhandling them, a little biting, and hard pumping that excited them the most. Ravaging the girls I was with is the best way to put it.
So, if you’re a guy who tries to make love slowly and delicately, you might just be placing yourself at a disadvantage. Most women crave something dirtier and more intense than the flowery lovemaking scenes we see in media and Hollyweird movies. The desire women have to be dominated in bed is true now more than ever in cock-carouseling Anglo America and the current mating jungle unleashed by the sexual devolution. Women have more experience with more men than ever before, and the guys who are the biggest assholes and who fuck them the hardest are the ones who make lasting impressions inside the female limbic brain.
I can say from personal experience the desire women have to be ridden hard is also true in Latin America, where a topic of conversation among women (especially when they think men aren’t listening) is “me gusta cuando me da duro” or “I like it when my man gives it to me hard.” In Asia, not as much. At least, based on my experience with Asian women. But I do hear stories about Asian women that like it rough, too.
This fact about female sexuality is yet another reason to believe feminism is a colossal societal shit test men have miserably failed. Even Cosmopolitan magazine broached the subject recently:
In the era of fourth-wave feminism, equal rights, and Leaning In, it can be tricky for some women to admit that when the lights go off, they want to be dominated and pushed around a little, even in the context of consensual play.
What? Women like to be dominated? Quelle surprise! The key is realizing they like to be dominated in both bed and in their relationships, no matter how much hamstering they do to try and act like they don’t. If only we didn’t have toxic latent Puritanism sending mixed messages about women. Continuing from Cosmo:
Many women (as many as 57% according to a University of North Texas study) are turned on by the idea of forceful sex, as un-PC as it might be. “This is not a fringe desire,” says sex researcher Zhana Vrangalova, Ph.D., an adjunct professor of psychology at New York University and founder of the Casual Sex Project blog. “This is much more common.”
This study seems conservative with the numbers. Based on my experience, I’d say it’s more like 75% to 80% of women like rough sex, even though most of them will never tell a man they like to be ridden like a bucking bronco.
Like so many aspects of male-female relations, it’s something men are “just supposed to know” as if we are all born with ESP and a laser beam into the convoluted machinations of the female soul. The banishing of fathers and the shaming of masculinity, which has reached new heights in the misandrist Anglo-American kingdom over the last couple of generations has no doubt helped to starve a couple of generations of boys of this critical wisdom about women. It’s something a man experienced with women would know.
If you didn’t know before, now you do. A bit of a disclaimer of sorts: This conversation is obviously about consensual sex. Moving on…
Cosmo then goes on to touch on the Fifty Shades of Grey phenomenon, in which a central plot device was rough sex, which made it the first book to reach a million copies sold on Amazon Kindle. The long-running woman’s magazine then trots out “Nicole” who confesses to her desire to be treated like a rag doll, rode hard and put up wet:
I had a partner who choked me a little bit, and I liked it. We talked about it afterward, and things progressed from there — slapping, spanking, degrading sex talk. Since then, it’s been a part of my sex life.
Spanking is number one on the list of what turns women on, in my experience. Some like to be spanked hard, others like gentle spanking. Depends on the girl.
Also, the plainer the girl acts, the more of a freak she often is.
So why do women like to mix pleasure and pain? It’s all about male power, say psychologists. Which, as any man who has a lot of sexual experience will tell you, is what turns women on more than anything else. Any PUA knows women hate boring and weak men. They love powerful, brooding assholes on the street and in bed.
“Most women who are into rough sex are into it for a very simple reason: It turns them on,” explains sex and relationship therapist Stephen Snyder, M.D., associate clinical professor of psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai, in NYC.
It all goes back to the limbic brain, as Freud knew and TNMM has pointed out on countless occasions. The limbic brain and its libininal desires are the dominant force behind human sexuality. This is doubly true for females, who are more emotional and less rational than men.
As evolved as we’ve become, some aspects of sexual attraction are, well, primal. “Physical size and strength and muscularity are essential differences between men and women,” says Dr. Snyder, “and those kinds of differences are going to be erotic.”
So, effeminate men aren’t going to be partaking in the cornucopia of vagina anytime soon. Leave that to the guys who look and act the part of a domineering tyrant when it comes to dealing with women. If you want to keep your woman around, here’s some sage advice from a SMV 9 I screwed around with for a while in Latin America. She told me, “Me gusta ser una dama en la calle, y una puta en la cama.” Translated, that means, “I like to be a lady in the street and a whore in bed.”
Knowing this raw truth about female sexuality can help the shameless playa slay more ass than he ever dreamed possible. Because when a man knows how to dominate a woman in bed, word gets around. And your main dish will be reluctant to ever let you go.
So, smack dat ass, my friends. Smack it hard.
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