Male Dominance: Most Women Like Rough Sex


Women like dominant men, in more ways than one

If there’s one commonality among the nearly 150 women I’ve bedded so far, among all nationalities and ethnicities, it’s that the vast majority of them got off on rough sex. They were most excited when being manhandled and ridden hard. They got off more intensely when I treated them like a dirty whore in bed.

When I treated them like a lady in bed, eh…not so much as far as these girls enjoying intense pleasure and throbbing orgasms. It was never whips and chains and other BDSM nonsense that turned them on. It was just spanking, pushing them around, manhandling them, a little biting, and hard pumping that excited them the most. Ravaging the girls I was with is the best way to put it.

So, if you’re a guy who tries to make love slowly and delicately, you might just be placing yourself at a disadvantage. Most women crave something dirtier and more intense than the flowery lovemaking scenes we see in media and Hollyweird movies. The desire women have to be dominated in bed is true now more than ever in cock-carouseling Anglo America and the current mating jungle unleashed by the sexual devolution. Women have more experience with more men than ever before, and the guys who are the biggest assholes and who fuck them the hardest are the ones who make lasting impressions inside the female limbic brain.

I can say from personal experience the desire women have to be ridden hard is also true in Latin America, where a topic of conversation among women (especially when they think men aren’t listening) is “me gusta cuando me da duro” or “I like it when my man gives it to me hard.” In Asia, not as much. At least, based on my experience with Asian women. But I do hear stories about Asian women that like it rough, too.

This fact about female sexuality is yet another reason to believe feminism is a colossal societal shit test men have miserably failed. Even Cosmopolitan magazine broached the subject recently:

In the era of fourth-wave feminism, equal rights, and Leaning In, it can be tricky for some women to admit that when the lights go off, they want to be dominated and pushed around a little, even in the context of consensual play.

What? Women like to be dominated? Quelle surprise! The key is realizing they like to be dominated in both bed and in their relationships, no matter how much hamstering they do to try and act like they don’t. If only we didn’t have toxic latent Puritanism sending mixed messages about women. Continuing from Cosmo:

Many women (as many as 57% according to a University of North Texas study) are turned on by the idea of forceful sex, as un-PC as it might be. “This is not a fringe desire,” says sex researcher Zhana Vrangalova, Ph.D., an adjunct professor of psychology at New York University and founder of the Casual Sex Project blog. “This is much more common.”

This study seems conservative with the numbers. Based on my experience, I’d say it’s more like 75% to 80% of women like rough sex, even though most of them will never tell a man they like to be ridden like a bucking bronco.

cover_promoLike so many aspects of male-female relations, it’s something men are “just supposed to know” as if we are all born with ESP and a laser beam into the convoluted machinations of the female soul. The banishing of fathers and the shaming of masculinity, which has reached new heights in the misandrist Anglo-American kingdom over the last couple of generations has no doubt helped to starve a couple of generations of boys of this critical wisdom about women. It’s something a man experienced with women would know.

If you didn’t know before, now you do. A bit of a disclaimer of sorts: This conversation is obviously about consensual sex. Moving on…

Cosmo then goes on to touch on the Fifty Shades of Grey phenomenon, in which a central plot device was rough sex, which made it the first book to reach a million copies sold on Amazon Kindle. The long-running woman’s magazine then trots out “Nicole” who confesses to her desire to be treated like a rag doll, rode hard and put up wet:

I had a partner who choked me a little bit, and I liked it. We talked about it afterward, and things progressed from there — slapping, spanking, degrading sex talk. Since then, it’s been a part of my sex life.

Spanking is number one on the list of what turns women on, in my experience. Some like to be spanked hard, others like gentle spanking. Depends on the girl.

Also, the plainer the girl acts, the more of a freak she often is.

So why do women like to mix pleasure and pain? It’s all about male power, say psychologists. Which, as any man who has a lot of sexual experience will tell you, is what turns women on more than anything else. Any PUA knows women hate boring and weak men. They love powerful, brooding assholes on the street and in bed.

“Most women who are into rough sex are into it for a very simple reason: It turns them on,” explains sex and relationship therapist Stephen Snyder, M.D., associate clinical professor of psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai, in NYC.

It all goes back to the limbic brain, as Freud knew and TNMM has pointed out on countless occasions. The limbic brain and its libininal desires are the dominant force behind human sexuality. This is doubly true for females, who are more emotional and less rational than men.

As evolved as we’ve become, some aspects of sexual attraction are, well, primal. “Physical size and strength and muscularity are essential differences between men and women,” says Dr. Snyder, “and those kinds of differences are going to be erotic.”

So, effeminate men aren’t going to be partaking in the cornucopia of vagina anytime soon. Leave that to the guys who look and act the part of a domineering tyrant when it comes to dealing with women. If you want to keep your woman around, here’s some sage advice from a SMV 9 I screwed around with for a while in Latin America. She told me, “Me gusta ser una dama en la calle, y una puta en la cama.” Translated, that means, “I like to be a lady in the street and a whore in bed.”

Knowing this raw truth about female sexuality can help the shameless playa slay more ass than he ever dreamed possible. Because when a man knows how to dominate a woman in bed, word gets around. And your main dish will be reluctant to ever let you go.

So, smack dat ass, my friends. Smack it hard.

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Eye Candy of the Week | July 23, 2017

It’s a day at the beach with model Jenna Pietersen. She looks lovely in either bathing suit, a testament to what femininity can be. Enjoy our Eye Candy of the Week for July 23, 2017.



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Trading Sexual Satisfaction for Materialism

Beautiful slender blonde at the sea. Summer travel photos

A crash course on sublimating sexual desire and turning it into consumer purchases, Freudian style

A century ago, Sigmund Freud laid down his theories about the human mind using psychoanalysis. Even today, his findings are controversial in Western culture, perhaps because they tell people things about themselves they’d rather not know. It’s psychological knowledge that doesn’t conveniently fit into the Overton Window of what people are willing to accept as a topic of discussion.

Little do people know, Freud’s theories work. And they work damn well. His sexual and psychological discoveries are used daily by corporations and governments to manipulate and control consumers and oligarchical subjects alike. Freud’s findings have been used to develop a method of social control that has been successful for a century.

Let’s jump back to the 1920s. Using Uncle Siggy’s discoveries gleaned through psychoanalysis, Freud’s American nephew Edward Bernays started the manipulation of the emotion driven, subconcious mass mind with a totally new approach to marketing and public relations. Bernays created what would become a wildly successful campaign – totally based on Freud’s Penis Envy theory – that got women to start smoking in large numbers.

As the campaign became a success, Bernays knew how his campaign really worked even though he had put a pretty face on it through the use of sophistry and flowery pleasantries. It worked because Anglo women (who seem to have a higher dose of Penis Envy than any other ethnic group of women) were subconciously displaying their own penises when they lit up. This satsified an emotional need they had to be just like men. Working for Philip Morris, Bernays twisted what he knew was the subconscious display of women holding their own penises in their hand into a more palatable phrase. These wannabe men were lighting up “Torches of Freedom.”

Marketers and manipulators of the mass mind were then off to the races to get what they wanted out of people by manipulating their subconscious emotions rather than appealing to their intellect. It was the first time an endeavor like this had been attempted on a wide scale using the then-new Freudian school of psychology.

Manipulating the more primitive human brain rather than the cortex created billions in profits for corporations and gave government bureaucrats power they never thought possible, even in their wildest dreams.

Decades later secular feminism arose, a product of both a Puritanical culture and of course, Penis Envy. Feminism, guided by social engineers, morphed into today’s androgyny agenda, in which women try to be just like men rather than just like women used to be. Every narrative we hear from feminists focuses on berating men even though women try to be just like them, all the way down to emulating male dress, behavior, social roles, and distancing themselves from nurturing and childrearing. This is obviously envious behavior. (Feminine qualities like following the male lead, being good caregivers, and staying at home with children embarass the modern woman, encouraged to indulge her innate, largely subconscious Penis Envy desires by popular culture!)

Of course, today’s banal consumer orgy also ensued as a result of Freud’s school of psychology becoming so successful. Creator of the Anglobitch theory and blog Rookh Kshatriya touched on the Freudian aspect of the consumer orgy yesterday.

It occurs to me that the Anglo-American fixation on consuming manufactured goods arises from their lack of a healthy sex life. Wilhelm Reich suggested that the Nazis exploited the sexual repression of petit-bourgeois Germans when building their political cult (for example, he argued that rhythmic marching allowed ‘sinful’ sexual tensions to be expressed). Being less militaristic, the Anglo nations have instead displaced their sexual urges into a pointless consumption of food and electronic toys. Indeed, the US in particular seems firmly stuck at the ‘oral’ stage of psycho-sexual development (consider the popularity of TV shows like Adam Richman’s Man Versus Food).

Those who have studied Freud and how successful his nephew became using his theories to create empires for corporations and government know just how right Rookh is. And indeed, everywhere you go in America people are orally fixated on food and recreational eating. It’s all you hear about in most circles, especially politically correct office spaces in which the only politically correct topic people can enjoy stroking their ids with is constant restaurant and food talk.

Let’s delve into oral fixation a little deeper to see what’s really motivating the current food-obsessed culture. Oral fixation is the first in Freud’s 5 stages of psychosexual development. From the health and fitness site Verywell:

Freud believed that personality developed through a series of childhood stages in which the pleasure-seeking energies of the id become focused on certain erogenous areas. This psychosexual energy, or libido, was described as the driving force behind behavior.

The idea of libido motivating people is so apparent it rises to the level of a self-evident truth. It means that the sexual market is the preeminent one over all other human markets. Everything humans do is about getting sex (nubile females for men, Alpha males for women) at a subconscious level. No surprise there. Continuing from Verywell:

If certain issues are not resolved at the appropriate stage, fixations can occur. A fixation is a persistent focus on an earlier psychosexual stage. Until this conflict is resolved, the individual will remain “stuck” in this stage. For example, a person who is fixated at the oral stage may be over-dependent on others and may seek oral stimulation through smoking, drinking, or eating.

Reading that gives us a true “Eureka!” moment. Thanks to manipulation of the mass mind through constant marketing and social engineering, Americans have been reduced to the oral fixation stage, and haven’t psychologically progressed to the higher levels. This adds a new dimension to the obesity epidemic and the restaurant obsession. Trust me, I’ve been all over the country and everywhere I go Americans are fat, overworked, and miserable. The one pleasure they derive is through eating like horses. Could it be because they are stuck in the oral fixation stage?

During the oral stage, the infant’s primary source of interaction occurs through the mouth, so the rooting and sucking reflex is especially important. The mouth is vital for eating, and the infant derives pleasure from oral stimulation through gratifying activities such as tasting and sucking.

Indeed, travel to any city in America to find nothing but activities geared towards tasting novel new dishes and sucking on newfangled smoothies and shakes, and of course sublimating those awful sexual desires and turning them into a consumer purchase.

Here’s a little more info on Freud and how his ideas on sexuality, emotions, and the subconscious are used to turn people into pliable consumers, as I replied to Rookh:

So much of marketing is based on harvesting the pent up energy stolid Anglo American sexual repression creates. Two quick examples: Men buying pickups represents males trying to display their sexual prowess on a subconscious level; women spending billions on clothes and cosmetics represent their effort to attract Alpha males.

I’ve written a couple of articles on now Freud’s nephew Bernays used his uncle’s ideas about human sexuality and psychology to create today’s consumer orgy. It’s a devious masterpiece. Only it’s progressed to the point people can’t even get off anymore, and everyone is miserable, trying to buy their way to that sexual fulfillment they’ll never find in a store or with consumer purchases.

In short, if people want to be happier they need to stop shopping and start fucking.

Sublimating sexual desires and turning them into consumer purchases powers the economy up to a certain point. But problems arise when the masses become so manipulated by Freud’s theories they morph into sexually dissatisfied land whales. This is where we find ourselves in modern Anglo America.

There you have it, a crash course in how that Austrian guy you might have heard of in school is influencing your life in ways you never even imagined. Knowing how marketers and PR flacks use this information to manipulate millions provides a new, and disturbing perspective into the world’s biggest consumer economies.

In short, the money men discovered a way to get humans to sell out their sexuality for material goods. And they were successful beyond anyone’s wildest dreams.

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Your Most Powerful Financial Asset


Just Say No to a system that expects you to spend like a drunken sailor even as it worsens the conditions of employment

The exploitative Anglo American Matrix routinely and shamelessly profits off locking men into state and corporate-approved ways of thinking and behaving, using them like batteries to power quarterly profits which chiefly benefit women. It’s well established 80% of wasteful consumerism and at least 66% of government spending is by and for women. They can’t live without “beating” their friends in a reckless game of shopping and eating out. Then of course, there’s the endless parade of female medical entertainment and demands for government gibsmedats.

How does a man escape life as a farm animal on this corporate-government plantation? Put simply, men don’t need all the junk women think they need to be happy. Take it from someone who knows. Charles Bukowski said it best: The less I needed, the better I felt.

Through minimalism, many men are realizing we have more agency over our lives than we once realized. Our most powerful financial asset is simply saying, “No!” to rampant materialism, consumerism, and the illusion of home “ownership” that locks us into 15 to 30 years of debt slavery for a McMansion we really don’t need to be happy. We can say “no” to debt slavery for a box on wheels. We can say no to credit card debt and looking to consumer purchases to make us happy. (They never do.)

By saying no to all those things we can then say “No!” to an employer who uses and abuses us at a soul-sucking job that robs us of all of the hours of our lives to power this bleak existence.

Indeed, the Achilles heel of the current sleep-work-spend paradigm is men realizing en masse they don’t need anything the system is selling beyond basic food, clothing, and shelter. We can make our own meals for a fraction of the cost of eating from the corporate restaurant trough, we can buy well-made clothing and keep fewer items that blend well with each other in our wardrobes, and we can cut housing costs by living in anything from a tiny house to a semi tractor-trailer (like yours truly) to renting an apartment abroad for a fraction of the cost (also yours truly).

The current system runs on pushing labor costs down to exploitative levels while asking exorbitant prices for its wares. It then expects its subjects to spin ever faster in the hamster wheel to keep purchasing what its selling at an ever-increasing rate. But what if men don’t want to be treated like lab animals? We can free up our lives and our livelihoods by refusing what it tries to shove down our throats. Blissful happiness is usually the end result.

The transition from mindless consumer to empowered man and the happiness that results is detailed in the documentary Minimalism: A Documentary About the Important Things available on Netflix.

In it, Ryan Nicodemus asks his friend Joshua Fields Millburn, “Why the hell are you so happy?” as both are locked in the throes of corporate groupthink, wasting their 20s climbing the imaginary ladder. Millburn then proceeds to explain to his best friend over Subway sandwiches the happiness that comes from minimalism. They later escape their lives as corporate serfs, where they were forced to perform such noble deeds as figuring out ways to sell cell phones to 5-year olds.

What an unbelievable breath of fresh air when a man extricates himself from the cogs of this machine by downsizing his life and freeing himself from debt bondage. Suddenly, instead of living in the Gilded Cage filled with posh material things that all place chains around his ankle and his soul, a man finds he has agency over his choices and his life again when he balances his home budget to discover he is operating at a profit himself rather than a loss. (This is a similar concept to adopting a corporate philosophy in your own life to win, previously detailed at TNMM.)

Escaping the paycheck to paycheck paradigm instantly places a man at an advantage over 70% of the populace who think buying things makes them happy and thus live on the razor’s edge. But why stop there? Run with your new freedom and chase things that really make you happy!

Sadly, the obsession with cyclical consumption and turning citizens into debt slaves under the religious creed “economic growth is everything” has led to the death of Anglo-American culture (if it ever really had one). It has led to Western nations selling out the lives of its people, selling out their futures, and now selling out everything from their sexuality to their freedom in order to power this vicious economic machine, in which the gears turn on creating problems out of peoples’ lives to create profit.

The economic machine that has become a cancer upon the very people it purports to enrich arose from the Faustian longing for perpetual motion. It will ultimately kill its host nations and peoples in its quest for the unattainable unless the machine is stopped, or some balance brought into the equation. It’s already beginning to break down as it literally attempts to turn human beings into profit-producing machines bereft of humanity, sexuality, agency, and choice.

We can refuse to be treated like less than men by realizing that as men we don’t need any of what the system is foisting upon us. The most amazing aspect of the entire economic facade that robs men of their lives is the fact it remains quite easy to escape.

All a man has to do is start saying, “No!” to exchanging all of the hours of his life for endless gadgets and upgrades, and lifestyles he can’t really afford. His freedom, passion, imagination and control over his destiny are then returned to him. And all it takes is boldly saying, “No!”

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Don’t Let an Anglobitch Strangle the Life Out of You

I just pulled off this awesome mini-vacation for around $500. That much money wouldn’t be enough to get started on if I had an Anglobitch tying me down. As I make my way through my last two months in America before returning to greener pastures abroad, I decided to head out West for my usual week off, after 3 weeks on the road earning “freedom money” in my semi.

I will say, on this trip and as a social observer, in Las Vegas and elsewhere I enjoyed watching guys who had one of these Anglobitch parasites attached to them suffering through their trips while I enjoyed mine, because I did whatever the fuck I wanted without the huge overhead expense that comes with having a snarky chick in tow. I’m convinced cutting these girls out of your life (except having a few friends with benefits) is the best thing a man can do for himself.

They just ain’t worth it.

YouGoGrrls and feminists enjoy parroting the line “I don’t need a man!” as they scurry off to jobs that exploit them on the corporate plantation. We hear it day in and day out, as women try so hard to put men in our place. But really, men need to start realizing the wisdom in the maxim “I don’t need a woman!” That simple statement is life changing. Why try to keep one around as a pet?

Become a “Naughty Nomad” as Mark Zolo and I have both done.

Learning the truth about females means realizing abundance mentality is where it’s at. Anglo women, unfortunately, aren’t worth much investment beyond the time it takes to get their clothes off. Women in America have become nothing but an albatross for today’s man. All risk, all demands, and no rewards.

Why get one-itis for someone who costs so much and gives so little back in return? The truth of the matter is there are just too many women and too many options and too many ways to get their candy without sacrificing one’s life and wallet and freedom for it. Don’t get emotionally invested in women. It’s a trap.

As I made my latest sojourn across the Desert Southwest the past few days, I realized I wouldn’t be doing anything I’ve done this year  – like visiting a brothel, banging non-pro chicks left and right, spending a month in Asia, spending a week in Playa del Carmen, spending a week in Las Vegas, and coming soon, spending a week in Curaçao, a month in Colombia, and returning to the Caribbean to live for anywhere between 6 months to 2 years if I had an Anglobitch weighing me down with her incessant need to consume.

What would be happening instead? Let’s just analyze this recent trip without going into detail about the rest of my swinging, free-wheeling lifestyle.

She would be complaining about the fact I have constantly been in motion since parking my big rig last week. When I go, I go at my own pace as a man, which is about 100 miles per hour. I love to explore and “aprovechar el tiempo” as my Spanish friends say. She would be complaining about the cheap (but clean) motels I stay in. She would be pushing me to consume crappy, overpriced corporate food (like the ersatz Bubba Gump or Señor Frog’s at $70 for 2 people, i.e. something with a stupid brand name on it) rather than eating simpler meals. She would be complaining about me spending time in the natural world rather than the churches of consumerism she worships. She would be pushing to go shopping for worthless crap to waste money that could instead be spent on experiences.

If I didn’t supplicate to her demands, she would buzz off like a vulture and find another provider module to exploit. Or, I’d have to expend mental energy putting her in her place. What man has got time for that nonsense?! Until women can provide more value than just sex in a relationship, that’s all women in America will ever be to me. Sexual entertainment. And aggravating, pricey, demanding sexual entertainment at that.

Perhaps it’s the vantage point of having half a lifetime of experience with hoes that allows a man to adopt this attitude. Realizing women have done little more than strangle the life out of him as each one attempts to pull her pussy lips over his head and suffocate him by cutting him off from his interests, his need to explore and seek novelty in life, his friends, and spending his money rather than him spending it, a man is freed from his innate desire to keep a woman around.

The Anglobitch only oppresses masculinity, because in this culture the belief is she “deserves” every ounce of a man’s productivity for herself because she’s endowed with magic anatomy. That’s really pretty fucked up. And a product of Anglo culture more than any other culture I’ve experienced.

As time wears on, I am growing confident that an income of $20,000 a year is enough for the enlightened man to live a fantastic life on if he decides to live part time abroad, adopts minimalism, and rejects the life plan commanded of him by women and consumer culture. The typical Anglobitch would waste more than that on recreational eating, clothes, and other assorted materialism.

But, as TNMM has pointed out before, it doesn’t take much for a man to live on. There are two ways to be rich: One is by acquiring much, and the other is by desiring little. Desiring little is where it’s at. Which is why the Anglobitch must be avoided like the plague she is. Don’t let the financial predator into your life.

The entire world will literally be your reward.

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