Validation Seeking Social Media Whores


Women spend five hours a week taking selfies for likes

Validation seeking social media whores – be they male or female – are a staple of modern times. The trouble some people will go through to look good and get likes on Facebook is incredible. Fakebook, as its now derisively referred to in some circles, has turned life into yet another popularity contest as men – and especially women – jockey for position in a competition to see who can get the most likes for day to day inanities.

Once again flying in the faces of “equalists” who suggest men and women are not different in any way beyond having a penis and vagina, social media majors tell us there are distinct differences in how men and women use their platforms. Not surprisingly, women are “selfie queens” as they spend an incredible amount of time preening, approval seeking, and teasing in front of the camera. Here are some telling stats from a study published in The Daily Mail (UK) about the average female social media whore. Women in general spend an incredible amount of time taking photos of themselves:

  • Women snap 3 selfies per day on average
  • 16 minutes spent on each selfie session
  • 48 minutes per day spent on selfies
  • 5.5 hours per week spent on selfies
  • Average 7 photos taken before the “right” pose is captured

Women also spend a lot of time making themselves pretty for the camera, which flies in the face of feminist logic that says women don’t have to look good anymore. Before each selfie, these are the routines women go through:

  • 57% find the perfect “soft” lighting
  • 46% fix up their hair
  • 33% do their makeup
  • 4% use spray tan

The top five reasons women go through all this trouble are very telling when it comes to female psychology. Women take selfies for the following reasons:

Additionally, women consume more social media than men, being the emotionally driven creatures they are.

Many top social networks – including Facebook, Pinterest, and Instagram – have a strong skew toward female users. Women in the US are more likely to use Facebook than men by about 11 percentage points, Pinterest by 29 percentage points, and Instagram by 7 percentage points, according to Pew.

It’s easy to see women want validation when they post unending photos of themselves, and are obsessed with projecting the right image, taking countless selfies to capture the perfect angle. Airbrushing of flaws and imperfections is now laughably built in to most new devices so you never really know what a girl looks like without her digital and real life makeup. Beyond females of all ages looking for a daily dose of narcissism, for older, wrinklier women, a hunger for likes as male attention wanes drives constant selfie posting. They know the milk is souring (which represents the female aging process) so they post more often to lick the psychological wounds brought on by The Wall.

Let’s not forget the women who obsess over showing off every meal they didn’t cook are also looking for online validation. And, we’ve all seen women who go to great distances to hide their fat rolls, as you often have to scroll through 10 photos of a chick on a dating site to figure out she’s larger than life and larger than any love interest you’d be willing to take on. She may be “tons of fun” for somebody, but not for me.

Why are women so obsessed with themselves?

Beautiful young woman selfie in the park

On average, women take 7 selfies before the “right” pose comes up

Emotional Needs

Why are women turning over every detail of their lives to a leftist turd like Mark Zuckerface or a Twat-ter like Jack Dorsey or a weiner like Linked In’s Jeff Weiner? Do people realize or even care when every detail of their lives regularly goes into the databases of everyone from lowlife marketing flacks to snoopy agents at the NSA? And, do women realize they are falling over themselves to give these people the information they want because they’re emotionally needy?

Just as ignoring women shows their innate desire to be the center of attention, heavy social media use shows their desire to be the most desired girl in the pack, i.e. the one that gets the Alpha while the other girls settle for Betas.

That said, there are some signs the way people use social media is changing. We may have seen the peak of duckface selfies and emotional masturbation of the type described above on Fakebook. Fortune magazine reports a decline in people sharing personal photos and stories, as people share more memes and other content.

Facebook has been struggling to reverse a 21% decline in “original sharing,” or personal updates, from its 1.6 billion monthly active users. This indicates a key vulnerability for the social behemoth, and failed attempts to address it reflect a point I made in a recent column: There’s no guarantee that Facebook’s current winning streak can last. Facebook’s decline in personal updates reflects a common growing pain for online communities. What starts out as special and intimate place to share things grows into a big, impersonal, and professional platform. Without the personal updates, Facebook becomes a glorified, $327 billion content recommendation engine.

Twatter and other social media majors have also reported declines in “original sharing” as people slow down on sharing every detail of their lives, down to the metaphorical color of their last bowel movement. This shouldn’t be surprising, as I knew years ago many status updates will only be turned into ammo your enemies and frenemies will use against you when the time is appropriate. Your exotic vacation and enviable lifestyle becomes rope that office backstabbers will only be too happy to hang you with. An example: Jane “likes” her friend Sue’s skiing trip and posts YouGoGrrl comments only to criticize her behind her back at work: How can she afford that trip? She must be making more than us. How did she get time off and we are stuck here? Before Sue knows it she has been undermined at work by envious coworkers.

As reported in May, the pressure to have the “perfect” social media life is also leading to burnout with keeping up appearances online, and in some cases, even leading to suicides of young women. The Truman Show hinted at the phenomenon of living a life in front of the equivalent of a studio audience nearly 20 years ago:

1.7 billion were there for his birth. 220 countries tuned in for his first step. The world stood still for that stolen kiss. And as he grew, so did the technology. An entire human life recorded on an intricate network of hidden cameras, and broadcast live and unedited, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, to an audience around the globe. Coming to you now from Seahaven Island, enclosed in the largest studio ever constructed, and along with the Great Wall of China one of only two man-made structures visible from space, now in its 30th great year… It’s The Truman Show!

Today, social media whores live their lives online by posting bite-size nuggets of everything tbey do from digital cameras rather than living 24/7 in front of a television camera. But, Facebook Live! could take social media absurdities to new heights and make The Truman Show a reality. Why post mere photos when you can broadcast your life on Fakebook?

It’s one thing to share with friends and family, but to turn yourself into a content producing jackass for the benefit of CEOs who don’t give a damn about you beyond how to sell your data is truly a wonder of the Internet Age. When will this odd period in human history pass and people go back to real interactions with real human beings rather than “incredible” digital simulations? Or, will we take Shakespeare’s observation that the world is a stage and we are only actors upon it to dystopian new heights? Seeing the current, low level of society doesn’t give me much optimism.

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  • charlessledge001

    It’s bad enough that women do this but the fact that men get sucked in is just…insane.


  • FunkSoulBrother

    I have heard Facebook is a lot like a public restroom. Most people stop by to take a piss wherever they can. Some people take a dump and leave. Some people are washing their hands. And almost everyone pauses at the mirror to try to make themselves look better. if you stay there long enough, you can’t get the smell out of your nose.


  • I quietly move girls who constantly post selfies into my ‘short term fun only’ basket. Trouble is, all my girls have been in that basket.


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