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Peer Into The Great Beyond As Wanderlust Calls


The life of the roaming nomad is one to which many awakened men aspire to

Do you wonder endlessly what lies beyond the dreaming horizon? Are you a wanderer, a drifter, a rootless nomad traversing foreign lands and living like today is all that matters?

In many ways I envy this man.  His home he finds wherever his feet may land.  Having no ties to hold him down he must know a great freedom.  We men of the west are all wanderers now.  Estranged and vilified from our own homelands.  We watch in traumatizing shock and bitter revulsion the sad state of affairs we find ourselves in.  All of us are simply trying to make sense of it all.

Where do we belong?

Wanderlust Of The Soul

While I may have not traveled as extensively as the host of the very site as well as many of the readers.  I have always had a wanderlust of the soul since I was young.  I drifted, drifted into perilous realms of the mind.  I floated down dark rivers of the heart.  Perhaps one of the most frightening things you will ever see is to stare.  A long and cold stare into the deepest, darkest parts of yourself with no illusions.  Most cannot  do this.  Indeed it can be too mind shattering for many.

You are not the idealistic avatar your ego projects itself to be.  In fact, you are probably a piece of shit in many if not most ways.

I know I am.

Millions, billions even just like you came and went like dust in the wind.

There are no tales written of them.  No songs sung in heartfelt praise.  Only a merciless earth to greet them as they kicked and screamed, pulled from a bloody womb.  Through no fault and no choice of their own that same merciless earth swallowed them whole.  As the ashes of their fleeting memories burned away and heartless winds did howl.  To wander the earth in search of some deeper longing always struck me as fascinating.

Why do we men get that pale glint in our eyes beckoning us beyond?  What makes us fail to find satisfaction right here and right now?

Why is it some of us are not content to stay in one place?


Wanderlust is connected with man’s yearning to find meaning in life

Our Deepest Longings

It is my thought that the wanderlust a man exhibits outwardly is often a physical manifestation of a spiritual search for meaning.  Both are perhaps necessary for men to undertake and probably complimentary when understood in this context.

I’ve written before about how the modern male is now a Ronin.  It was one of the first articles I ever wrote.  I still feel the words inside resonate deeply.  The difference however is that the samurai of feudal Japan who became ronin felt immense shame for it.  We could feel shame if we want to be defeated men.

Or we could immerse ourselves in the powerful freedom that comes when a man no longer serves any master.

Instead he chooses through the steel of his will and the fire of his heart to become his own Master.  This does not mean lavishing yourself with undue praise or doting over past victories.  This is a complete revolution of the mind.  A form of living in defiance to the New World Faggot hivemind.  This takes much strength of will because you are accepting to live the life of a modern heretic.  People hate to have their pathetic hopes crushed.  As many red pill men have seen/are seeing.  The world is going to fucking hate you for challenging their accepted reality.

Slavery: The Natural State Of Man

Slaves love their chains.  In fact religious systems are created for this purpose and psychological thought structures are produced by the cunning serpents of the world to manipulate your entire view of self.  Have you ever come to the coldly sobering realization that nearly everything you believed about yourself and the world prior to that point was a venomous lie?

How fucking furious were you?  How shocked?  What dark thoughts threatened your precious ego?

For the man who truly wishes to be free  He must face down the great void inside his soul.  He must see himself with no illusions that couch his fears and no fairy tales to caress his all important feelings.

I think the point in which a man realizes he can no longer be a slave.  The point of no return where he has seen the darkness with a full heart.  This is when he realizes the ego destroying truth.

That in order for him to be free.  He must live dangerously.

You see, freedom is not the want of the weak.  In fact even the strong have trouble imagining a world with no boundaries.  A world where there are no confining walls to keep you where they say you should be.  No voices of authority reproaching him for wandering off the range.

This is the Void you must stare into.  The dark unknown inside yourself which you must confront.  Ivan Throne’s Nine Laws would represent this by his 9th law.   The law of no laws.  The Void.

It is there you shall know the savage freedom of the unfettered mind.

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Why Modern Men Need To Develop A Passion For Living


Climb the mountains you choose in life, not the ones society chooses for you

I see them every time I go out. Men who look as though they’ve been defeated by life and who are just going through the motions. This is the case for men even in their 20s in America. There is anger and despair in the eyes of these men, who have the countenance of a slave when I look into their faces. They’re quite common in all the business ventures I’ve pursued in life, from the average Joe truck driver to the lofty heights of the crumbling mass media ivory tower.

I know the look because I was once one of those men.

You see them online as well. Dripping with sarcasm, contempt, and bitterness as they attack anyone or anything that doesn’t conform to their myopic ideals.

Stefan Molyneux has accurately described what we’re living on as a human farm, full of human livestock. From The Handbook of Human Ownership:

The reality of political power is very simple: bad farmers own crops and livestock – good farmers own human beings.

So how does it work?

Anyhoo, the basic reality of human ownership is this:

1. First, you must first subdue the masses through force

2. Then, you maintain that subjugation through the psychological power of ethics.

People think that ethics were invented to make people good, but that’s like saying that chastity belts were invented to spread STDs. No, no – ethics were invented to bind the minds of the slaves, and to create the only true shackles we rulers need: guilt, self-attack and a fear of the tyranny of ethics. Whoever teaches ethics rules the herd, because everyone is afraid of bad opinions, mostly from themselves. If you do it right, no judgment will be as evil or endless as the one coming from the mirror.

What happens when people are treated like livestock? They get fat, listless, and bitter. Take a look around America and tell me that’s not the case.

The life is sucked right out of them, because their souls have already been consumed by a vicious cycle of debt servitude and corporate drudgery. They willingly put themselves into massive amounts of debt for car payments, giant houses, and tons of things they don’t really need to fill the empty space.


The human farm is no place for the man who must have autonomy

Mass Brainwashing

Seldom do men ever ask this simple question: Why are we doing what we’re doing?

The truth is a century of mass marketing, propaganda, and thought control have yielded a populace enslaved by their own materialistic desires. Starting with Freud a century ago, and using principles refined by his nephew Edward Bernays people are locked in a cycle of competitive consumption but don’t know why they’re living lives in which they would slit someone’s throat for a new iPhone.

Today, marketing gurus such as Clotaire Rapaille, who works for many Fortune 500 companies know the American mind set well as men like him push men to give up their lives, sacrificing to power the female Hedonic Treadmill:

My experience is that most of the time, people have no idea why they’re doing what they’re doing. They have no idea, so they’re going to try to make up something that makes sense. Why do you need a Hummer to go shopping? “Well, you see, because in case there is a snowstorm.” No. Why do you buy four wheel drive? “Well, you know, in case I need to go off-road.” Well, you live in Manhattan; why do you need four wheel drive in Manhattan? “Well, you know, sometimes I go out, and I go—” You don’t need to be a rocket scientist to understand that this is disconnected. This is nothing to do with what the real reason is for people to do what they do.

Long story short, marketers learned to exploit people’s subconscious sexual desires, turning them into an orgy of consumerism a century ago.

Realizing this truth was an absolute horror as I began the process of awakening in my late 20s. I was at the intersection of what George Carlin called Bullshit Central: the intersection of advertising, Hollywood, and the news media. Even though I was a media spinmeister, I also had found myself enslaved by the very messages of fear and consumption we doled out on our airwaves each day.

It was a hell like no other for a man whose personality type demands autonomy and independence. Money came in and money went out each month, and I was the rat in the wheel making it all spin around.

What a difference a not giving a fuck anymore makes.


Make the leap, my friends

Feeling Alive

Oscar Wilde, Irish playwright and novelist sums up the transition I made from another animal on the farm to an “empowered” man, to borrow a phrase from the feminists:

To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.

Alive is exactly how I would summarize what has been the happiest period of my entire life, the period since I quit my job and struck out on my own.

To be honest, there are times not having the security of a Joe job scares the living daylights out of me. But that is the impetus to make me accomplish new things in life. It leads to some of the most breathtaking moments in this man’s life, when he looks back and realizes, “It’s already been that long since I left it all behind? Damn. I’m not doing so bad after all.”

I’m now closing in on my two-year anniversary since walking away from everything I spent my entire life building. Not many people would just walk away from a cushy (if cutthroat) job reading news headlines each day. And I’ve never felt more alive. It is amazing what a man is capable of when he takes control of his own destiny, rather than living the prescribed plan his masters have laid out for him.

Without the pressure to find something constructive to do with all the time I had since leaving the workaday world, I would have never come to write for Return of Kings and started building my blog and writing career. I would have never been one of only two men out of a class of 15 who earned their CDL in the barn burner three-week “trucker boot camp” I attended. (Yes, CDL school was that hard. People were dropping out like flies and failing the school. But I had a fire in my belly because trucking was so central to my financial plan to travel the world.)

I would have never had the freedom to spend a full year in the Caribbean and now be writing this to you from my month-long sojourn in Thailand, where I just woke up beside one of the sexiest, sweetest, and most feminine women I’ve ever met in my life.

There is still beauty in this world if you look for it.

Plus, badass travel stories and risk taking behavior make women moist in their nether regions. The legs spread easier with my stories about what I’m doing with my life than they ever did when I was another predictable, reliable Beta male slave.

I used to pass out at night dreading the next day, consistently exhausted from waking up at 3:30 a.m. each day, rushing down to the news station to deliver the daily propaganda with a vacuous, forced smile. Now, I sometimes have trouble sleeping at night because I am daydreaming about all the possibilities of what I could do with my newfound freedom.

I knew there had to be a way out. Turns out it was simpler than I ever imagined. All it took was walking away. Making the leap. Stop giving a fuck.

Men, if the corporate-government complex has given you such a shabby deal, why deal with it? Formulate a plan to get yourself out of debt and free from the other shackles, mental and financial, that have been placed upon you.

Maybe it’s time to come out and play – or LIVE – a little. This is my message for you. Rediscover a passion for living. Live life on your terms. It will be the best thing you’ve ever done. It’s okay to live for yourselves in a day in age in which society has thrown you overboard.

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Is the Manosphere Devolving into a Mass of Followers and Do-Nothing Complainers


It’s thumbs down no matter what you do for some men

It’s hard to break the mold.

Even a segment of the Internet dedicated to waking men up en masse is now populated by many who will do just about anything to defend the status quo. It seems complaining and hurling insults online, putting blind faith in politicians, or putting a man’s testes in a legal vice grip (marry ‘er and flawlessly game ‘er) and hoping for the best are the only accepted solutions.

Anything else, anything original, any risk-taking is off the table. Once again, Stefan Molyneux’s Human Farm analogy applies:

If you can get the cows to attack each other whenever anybody brings up the reality of their situation, then you don’t have to spend nearly as much controlling them directly.

This is exactly what happens whenever outside the box thinking occurs. And it could be the reason nothing will ever change. Because many men want to keep doing the same thing. Not having a security blanket – even if that blanket is a mirage – terrifies them.


Molyneux’s metaphor for human cattle attacking those who are bold and different works quite well

Cows Attacking Each Other

Each time a man steps out of line, there will a small but vocal brigade of screeching, online hooligans wielding figurative pitchforks to try and force him back into the fold. Witness, a humble write up encouraging men to seek their own definition of freedom and to develop a passion for living. There was also a personal story about how the author was forging his own destiny, free of the corporate plantation. Attacks generally fell into these categories.

  • You are not “being responsible” so you need to “man up” and settle for whatever the system gives you.
  • You are not “being a man” by refusing to put up with the shabby treatment society gives you.
  • A misplaced sense of “honor” is more important than realizing you’ve been fucked on a deal in which the terms were part of a bait and switch job, i.e. the vaunted but now worthless education you sacrificed for, so lube it up and continue bending over the barrel. Do not renege on the contract using legal loopholes the system itself created because “real men” let themselves be taken advantage of.
  • You are not following the prescribed life plan, therefore you are a loser for doing what you want rather than what the system commands you to do.
  • I am jealous because you are doing the things I only dream of, so I’m going to try and trip you up with endless vivisection and criticism.
  • How dare you not wife up an Anglobitch, pucker your asshole and hope for the best as you place yourself into a subservient legal and social role.
  • You are not practicing tight enough game. I am a master of game, and if you were a “real man” like me, you’d be doing what I’m doing. (This is a recurring theme.)

The overall message is one that communicates absolute horror that a man has stepped out of line, said “Fuck you!” to the system, and has formulated a concrete plan to not only live abroad at least half the time, but to pay for it with his own labor. All while following the rules of the very system he has eschewed, but using them to his advantage rather than someone else’s.

This reply I posted to one of the commenters also sums up the Beta-tude of a small but vocal minority:

When you make your own definition of getting ahead you have a thousand trolls telling you you’re doing it wrong, get back to the grind, wife up an Anglobitch, practice perfect Game to keep her so you don’t get frivorce raped, and watch her age.

Somehow that’s supposed to save the West.

Fuck that mess.

If all my plans fail, the worst that could happen is going back to a corporate job in the media. An increasingly unstable one with no real future, one might add.

What are we even doing if are intolerant of men who buck the system and try to break free of a design to exploit them? Just airing out grievances and hurling insults online? That wasn’t good enough for this author. It was time to turn the knowledge we’ve gleaned in the manosphere into action.


“I’ll show that guy, he better start following the program even though we complain about it constantly…”

Cows Attacking Each Other, Part II

Detail 5 ways Anglo women have turned themselves into sex objects through feminism and a rampage ensues in which ad hominems were prevalent, and the White Knight brigade comes out in full force to defend the honor of the warpigs they supposedly want to reform. Attacks generally fell into these categories:

  • Go to Wyoming, that’s where the secret stash of quality Anglo women is.
  • Go to Utah, that’s where the secret stash of “good Mormon girls” are.
  • It’s your fault you found yourself in the middle of a gynocentric culture, so “man up” and “do what’s right” by strapping yourself in for 40+ years of corporate bondage, put a ring on it and hope for the best.
  • Our women aren’t that bad. (These guys only say this because they’ve never experienced true femininity.)
  • Your game isn’t tight enough. Become a 0.01% gamer and you might have a chance at surviving your subordinate legal and social role in a marriage. (Recurring theme.)

Oh, and never mind this mere sampling of guys who played the marriage game and lost enormous sums of money:

  • Mel Gibson’s divorce from Robyn Moore Gibson; cost estimated at $425 million
  • Michael Jordan’s divorce from Juanita Jordan, cost $168 million
  • Steven Spielberg’s divorce from Amy Irving; cost estimated at $100 million
  • Ted Danson’s divorce from Casey Coats; cost estimated at $30 million
  • Donald Trump’s divorce from Ivana Trump; cost estimated at $25 million

Not to mention all the countless men you no doubt know who were put through the frivorce meat grinder. I have many personal stories of good men who were frivorce raped by their wives after marriages ranging in length from only a few years to two or three decades. I’d enjoy nothing more than for the supposed Alphas to go tell these guys they weren’t manly enough to keep their wives and didn’t practice game correctly. No doubt, they’d get their lights punched out.

Apparently, there are also some manosphere commentators who are more Alpha than Donald Trump, Micheal Jordan, and Mel Gibson. They’ll be able to thread the needle and keep their wives while these lesser men could not. Hmmm.

It doesn’t take a lot of analysis to realize none of this makes any fucking sense. It’s just a bunch of guys grasping at straws and performing the most incredible mental acrobatics to stay exactly where they are in life.

Short of a full press of the cultural reset button, nothing is going to change.


Doing the same thing and expecting different results is the definition of insanity

The ‘Do Nothing and Everything Will Be Fine’ Brigade

Stop with those dangerous thoughts and fall in line!

That sums up the “Do Nothing and Everything Will Be Fine” brigade, who are intolerant of independent lifestyles lived outside The Matrix.

The general consensus among this vocal group is to keep doing what men have been doing, but to expect a different result this time. That’s the very definition of insanity. What has the commentary taught me? That at times, we in the manosphere, the ones who put our asses on the line seem to be living out this scene from The Matrix:

The Matrix is a system, Neo. That system is our enemy. But when you’re inside, you look around, what do you see? Businessmen, teachers, lawyers, carpenters. The very minds of the people we are trying to save. But until we do, these people are still a part of that system and that makes them our enemy. You have to understand, most of these people are not ready to be unplugged. And many of them are so inured, so hopelessly dependent on the system, that they will fight to protect it.

It would seem that’s the case with a certain segment of the manosphere. This is exactly what type of commentary follows many articles, not just my articles – men fighting to protect the system, no matter how rotten it might be. Men trying to tear others down for refusing to play along with a system that consumes a man and doles out little material rewards in exchange for all the hours of his life.

This sacrifice might have been acceptable in a time when a man was guaranteed a loyal wife and family by society, but we aren’t playing that game anymore. Feminism and liberalism changed all that. They were collectively Pandora’s Box and there’s no real way to put the genie back in the bottle. We are just playing out the string until it all comes down.

There are those of us who refuse to keep doing what men have been doing. We will be the lightning rods for criticism from the timid, who seek the comfort and security having a subordinate role in society provides them.

Rather than chasing the carrot on a stick retirement plan, since I was so burned by the carrot on a stick rubber stamp plan, I will live the words of Errol Flynn: Any man who dies with more than $10,000 to his name is a failure. I’m going to live while I’m alive. Not pickle myself and hope I’ll still be crispy at age 65. Or 67. Or 70. Or whatever the retirement age is in the near future.

Let the attacks commence. I’m not going to change my message.

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Dreamers Dream And Doers Do: Cucks Vs Men


Indoctrination begins at childhood, designed to beat the male out of the boy

Jack Ronin is a Politically Incorrect Correspondent for The New Modern Man. He also runs The Savage Lifestyle.

It’s no secret that males are the more idealistic sex.  As children we are bombarded with numerous fairy tales which serve to construct a mythos in our minds.  These rainbow colored fantasy fag-outs fill the impressionable mind with wonder and awe.

The ego becomes invested in the purity of the myth to play out for the naive adolescent.  The boy thinks his fantasy might come true if only he were to be worthy of it.

Psychology Of The Cuck

This is the cuck mentality.  He places his value at the very bottom as something which must be dutifully earned through his numerous displays of gentlemanly behavior.  Effusively self deprecating and pathetically pliant, he attempts to win the favor of his distressed damsel.

Now this damsel when he chooses her is placed exceedingly high on parapets of unearned virtue and lustfully elevated praise.  She calls down to him in teasing glances and reaches out enticingly.  Only to recoil upon his overeager need for her approval.

The dreamer dreams but never does.  He walks among the fantasy and wish-it-were-so.

Reality itself must be not be enough to break the spell which binds the cuck.  His ego must be shielded and the dream must live on.  Moreover the cuck will even become your enemy should you attempt to avail him of his shackles.

Of course you should not be the cuck.

Yet just as much you should not deign to even associate with the cuck or enter into any kind of agreement with him.  Surely calamity will find you should the foundations of the cuck’s fragile fairy tales begin to wobble.

They will most definitely wobble when the cruel waves of a heartless reality break hard upon the piss weak skin of a bitch ass cuck boy.


Men get things done while weaklings only daydream

A Man Is A Doer

Dreams don’t mean a damn thing without the unstoppable will to execute it.  The cold and calculating mind which only a man who has endured a merciless earth with no illusions can possess.  If a man has dreams and he finds those hopes shattered.  It is of no consequence to him.  All the more should he dream larger and nobler.  Placing his hopes on more solid ground if the dreams of his past don’t find firm footing in the present.

While the cuck seeks to hide from conflict and strife.  The man courageously rushes forward to find the answers to his deepest fears and seek the prize of his most primal longings.

For the man is not content to lie idle with the fabled fantasies of the weak and ego assuaging feelings of delusion.  He will stand up and seek out the monsters inside of him and those that dwell on this earth.  Seek them out and slaughter them all.

Because the stark, undeniable difference between the dreamer and the doer, cuck vs the man is this.

The will to power.

Two Worlds Apart

These two types might as well come from different planets since they are made of such opposing substance.  The dreamer dreams in hazy pictures and pretty sounds.  All the fairy tale fuckboy illusions the modern machine can force feed into that mangina mouth.

While the man lives in the dream destroying reality of the here and now.  He is present to the moment and he will act with force and power to secure or destroy what he wishes.  For the man has no illusions he deceives himself with.  No fantasy dreams he needs to put himself to sleep within a vicious world.  He embraces the darkness and the unknown.

With open arms and the curving smile of an absolute mad man.  The man DOES whatever it fucking takes to win.  To conquer at all costs no matter what the collateral damage might be.  Victory is all that matters.  For the doer knows all too well that in the game of life and death there is no reward for 2nd place.

Only a shallow and unmarked grave history will soon forget.


Weakness will get you eaten in this world

Embrace A Cold World

The world is not fair.  The earth is not compassionate, nor merciful nor kind.  Only the strongest, most savage and resilient can ever survive the cruel claws of this bitch mother earth.  No room for the weak and  no remembrance for the soft.

Leave the dreaming to the crude and crass.  Leave the fantasies to the feminized masses and their pathetic pandering.  Shatter those weaknesses inside of you today.

Embrace the hard rain of a cold world.  Let the storm wash away all the soft and the sentimental.  Let it rain down a constant deluge over the whiny masses.  Hear their cries drown in gargled gulps.  Smile as the weak and pathetic get the fruits of their fairy tale lies.  Yes yes! Take your medicine.  Choke on that shit.

Let the dreamers dream and the cucks get cucked.

For you shall profit from the weak and feeble.  Stand atop the lifeless corpses of your foes.  Having laid to rest all your fairy tales and put to death all the lies.  Stand triumphant over all the slain.

A fucking man.

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Reader Request: How Does a Red Pill Man Find Other Awakened Men?


Not every man can exit Plato’s Cave

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Erik writes:

How does a red pill man find his own tribe (other men) in this world?

It’s a blue pill world, and by the time you are in your 30s and 40s, you may not have the same extensive social network you once had in your teens and 20s. Old friends change, move for work, get married, etc.

I’m a mountaineer, and for several years I worked hard to create and maintain friendships based upon that hobby. I was the guy putting trips together, helping newcomers to the sport, etc. But many men are beholden to their LTRs/wives in a way that prevents them from serving their own interests. Guys get shit tested a lot and they end up choosing activities that are more domestic.

So, how do you find your own tribe? Are some men better off as a lone wolf?

First off, congratulations to Erik for mastering such a masculine, wellness generating hobby as mountain climbing.

This is no doubt a conundrum many men will find themselves in as they become Red Pill aware.

As an awakened man finds himself no longer under the spell of the shadows in Plato’s cave and begins exiting The Anglo-American Matrix mentally and spiritually, there will no doubt be tension between him and the men who still seek unicorns for love and marriage, who pedestalize women, and believe in politicians and the mainstream media.

For those who aren’t already familiar with it, Plato’s Allegory of the Cave shows us there have been a class of men like us in the manosphere who have searched for the light of truth no matter where it may lead for thousands of years, rather than living lives in the dark as the masses do. The allegory is presented in Plato’s Republic:

Plato describes a group of people who have lived chained to the wall of a cave all of their lives, facing a blank wall. The people watch shadows projected on the wall from objects passing in front of a fire behind them, and give names to these shadows. The shadows are the prisoners’ reality. Socrates explains how the philosopher is like a prisoner who is freed from the cave and comes to understand that the shadows on the wall are not reality at all, for he can perceive the true form of reality rather than the manufactured reality that is the shadows seen by the prisoners. The inmates of this place do not even desire to leave their prison; for they know no better life.

A number of lessons can be gleaned from this allegory when compared and contrasted alongside the modern life of an awakened man.

As you begin to see beyond the shadows, Blue Pill friends will inevitably drift away from and even avoid you because they’re still under the illusion of the myths society creates to keep the average man in line. Scorn will also be heaped upon you by those who cannot see beyond the shadows…those such as feminists, SJWs, White Knights, etc.

Feminists will also despise you as they see you as a threat to their well-established con game.

In this regard, while becoming a Red Pill man is extremely liberating, it can also be very isolating in that we will always be a minority amongst men and will never be able to talk openly about what we know with those still under the spell of the mythmakers. Their power is a strong (or stronger) now than it was 2,000 years ago as we find ourselves trapped in an Age of Public Relations and Propaganda.

Thankfully, the Internet provides a meeting place, a refuge for the Red Pill man. We can also choose to spend our time doing activities and in places where there are men who think like us. I’ve personally found a large number of expat men are of the same overall mentality as me.

Many of us likely will end up as lone wolves in some way as in my personal life I’ve found I can only go so far with Red Pill knowledge with most of my friends. Some are tolerant of th unpopular truths we accept as reality, while others are scared to death by them.

Some men will just never be able to make the leap and be a strong willed man rather than a pushover Beta male. I’ve personally seen this happen with a close friend of mine, who was frivorce raped but still allows women he dates to have control over him to this day.


Many men never stop clinging to “mommy’s” apron and this makes them weak in the eyes of women

Beholden to Women, Clinging to the Apron

Erik goes on to share a personal story about how Blue Pill men often completely lose themselves in a relationship. This provides a good cautionary tale for other men out there about not letting women assume control over you.

An acquaintance in Denver approached me and said he thought he’d be interested in climbing mountains (based upon my reputation).  His LTR said, “Sure, do it.”  The guy is a highly motivated professional and I helped him select gear, train physically, and learn backcountry skills such as navigation, camping, rope handling, etc.

I set a goal with my new friend, a mountain we’d climb together after a couple trips of shorter duration to train and practice working together.  The entire ramp up to the big goal was about 12 months in duration.  This activity did not take over his life; We did three weekend trips together in 12 months to train and test equipment, he was generally in charge of his own progression.

This guy was loving every second of it.  Initially, his wife supported it.  My friend ran, lifted weights, completed a short course offered by a local organization, and tested gear and techniques.  But as we got close to the big goal, and she was still overweight by about 20 pounds, she started shit testing him.

  • “You can’t just leave me alone for a full week . . .”
  • “I don’t know if you’re in good enough shape for this . . .”
  • “Don’t you have stuff to do around the house . . .”

I tried to coach him a little, but he failed those shit tests.

There’s an important lesson here.

A woman will always try to push a man around to see what he’s made of. The best a man can do is to be firm with his decisions, be self-serving, and make his own decisions rather than succumbing to fleeting female desires.

In short, it pays dividends to be an asshole.

Women respect assholes. They loathe Beta males who let women make their decisions for them. Guys should know women don’t know what they want most of the time anyway, and have to be informed of what their opinion is by a strong willed man. (Unfortunately, the media have assumed the role of decision maker for women today, taking it away from men who have grown progressively weaker in the last 50 years.)

Continuing from Erik’s story, his acquaintance got weak in the knees after his wife started badgering his decison to pursue mountain climbing adventures and self-improvement:

In the end, we managed to do the big trip together, we summited the mountain, but he was a mental wreck.

No doubt he didn’t know what to do because she intensified the shit tests mentioned above. Beta males will always default to a position in which they allow women unwarranted influence over their personal lives.

This woman sounds like a typical Anglobitch, who spins about three or four different narratives at once. Women like this often stir up controversy just to see where the cards fall.

While she creates self-doubt in her husband and her plan to make him stop mountain climbing succeeds, deep down inside she begins to loathe him because no woman respects a weak, pussy-whipped man.

During the end of that year I had a plate who got to know my friend’s wife (very briefly.)  Oddly enough, the wife told my plate a couple times that my friend was a “nuisance” around the house, sex with him was boring (“He climbs on top of me missionary!”) and she wished he would “do something for himself, to be more interesting.” THIS, DURING THE TIME SHE WAS SHIT TESTING HIM.

Notice, this female shit testing her man – trying to get him to doubt himself and cling to her apron – while at the same time complaining about him doing exactly what she wants him to do!

What a twisted universe the female mind is.

After first doubting her husband, then complaining because he obviously didn’t pass her shit test, she then goes on to make a pass at Erik!

I ran into my friend’s wife once downtown.  She walked real close to me and said, “______ just sits on the couch.  I wish he was as devoted to something as you are.”  In that moment I felt I could have slept with her.  I decided to keep that to myself.  These women, they get the Beta males they asked for.

The story ends in a predictable way.

In the end, he said he was just too busy at work to climb anymore. He seems happy to be under her dominion.  I can’t climb with a guy like that.  We have nothing in common.

This story is a tragedy that plays out countless times. Men, so motivated by a desire for regular sex and female companionship make way too many concessions to women who enjoy pushing weak Beta males around. This is not a good position for a man to be in.

His fear of losing his woman will actually make him lose his woman by supplicating to her wishes.

In many ways, there’s just no helping a guy like this as they’ll only get angry at you for challenging the cultural indoctrination that makes them behave in such a manner.

In short, my answer to Erik is we can lead a horse to water but we can’t make him drink. We can try to wake men up with daily doses and small, bite size portions of Red Pill knowledge. It’s up to them to use it to make change in their lives.

In the meantime, taking a live and let live approach has helped me deal with this conundrum. I live my life the way I see fit, and so should other awakened men. But we have to accept some guys are just not salvageable, and that we who escape the mind control surrounding us will always be isolated in some way.

Traveling to locations that have lots of expats has been the best way I’ve found so far to meet other awakened individuals face to face. Expats seem to intuitively know what lies we are surrounded by, and many are fleeing feminist dominated nations and sexual repression. And of course, on men’s web sites like Return of Kings, The Savage Lifestyle and this one offer places to meet and discuss ideas with other Red Pill guys. That’s about all we have for the time being, unfortunately.

Not every man is capable of exiting the cave, or letting go of the apron. Our decision is to become another sheepish follower, or a lone wolf who does whatever he wants.

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